By Kendra Holliday | March 16, 2014
This post is an ode to masturbation! Masturbation is completely healthy and normal. Masturbation is a way of being in touch with your body. Masturbation is good for circulation and mood, as well as long-term sexual health. Masturbation is a safer sex practice!
There is nothing to be ashamed or guilty when it comes to masturbation.
Unfortunately, many people have religious or parental experiences growing up that negatively impact their sexuality. Take this instance from CapitalFun1:
For a long time I had carried great shame with masturbation and I experience strong feelings of self-loathing upon completion. I equated it to being dirty, and I should be punished for it. I connect this feeling to my youth when my mother came into my room as I had just finished masturbating, my pants at my knees. I remember thanking god I had rolled off the side of my bed and threw my back-pack onto the bed in time and told her was looking for notes to help help me with my homework. Upon seeing the wet-spot on my bed, I remember witnessing her put her finger in it and then smell it followed by a look of disappointment. This completely filled me with embarrassment and horror which subconsciously hold to this day.
On the other hand, I have a friend who grew up in Europe, where sex is not so taboo. He was around nine years old when he discovered that playing with his penis made it hard. Excited, he called to his mother, “Mom, come see what my penis can do!” She said, “No thanks,” and went on about her business, without scolding him or getting upset. He’s had a long and healthy relationship with his penis – he’s in his 60’s and still gets off once or twice a day!
There’s also a misconception that you only masturbate because you “can’t get any.” How ridiculous! I masturbate twice a day and have an active sex life with multiple partners – I do it because it feels good. It’s a form of self-love, a stress reliever, and more. It’s like watching a movie – if you watch a movie solo, does that make you a loser? No!
Wouldn’t it be funny if we could talk about masturbation the way we can talk about other popular diversions in mixed company? Like, instead of saying you were going to spend the afternoon playing video games or watching sports on TV, you could say you were going to enjoy a marathon jerk off session?
Luckily, sexual stigmas are continuing to fall by the wayside. According to this article on the changing sexual landscape, “Millennials are enjoying guilt-free masturbation in record numbers – and if that doesn’t lead to a more well adjusted society, I don’t know what will.”
How about you? Got any good masturbation stories? How often do you do it? What’s your routine? Have you ever been caught in the act?