My Top Sex-Positive Recommendations

The 5 most common reasons people seek out my services, and what I recommend!

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My Daughter is Asexual

I wonder if she will always be that way.

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Doing God’s Work

According to this reader, Jesus and I would be best buds.

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Meeting Sissy Maid

Was this sub guy going to impress me, or was he like the others?

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Liberator Wedge and Throe

Two very valuable bedroom accessories for the sexually creative!

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My Teen Daughter is Repulsed by Cocks

Sending your unsolicited cock shot may reduce your chances of getting laid.

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My Top Sex-Positive Recommendations

By Kendra Holliday | July 8, 2014 at 8:53 am

I weigh a size 8

Kendra

I offer sex and relationship consulting, and I’m happy to say that since instituting my new reservation and cancellation policy, I’ve been getting more requests than ever.

The Top 5 reasons why people contact me are, in this order:

1. He’s a married man in his 50′s or 60′s whose wife is not interested in sex (mismatched libido)

2. He/she has some sort of sexual issue they want to work through

3. He/she is interested in branching out sexually, either because they are in transition, not getting laid, or curious about non-monogamy

4. He/she (mostly he) has a fetish and are ashamed/seeking an outlet

5. They want to meet me, and possibly rub me for good luck

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My goal is to offer tools, connections, and options to people so that they can become happier and healthier. Sex is my specialty, which ties into work, family, personal – everything!

Here is a list of resources I most often recommend to my clients:

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My Daughter is Asexual

By Kendra Holliday | July 7, 2014 at 8:33 am

My daughter when she was 5

My daughter when she was 5

My 12-yr-old daughter is asexual. Sometimes I wonder if she will always be that way. (UPDATE: I first wrote this two years ago. She is now 14 years old and is still asexual.)

Not that it would be a bad thing, but it sure would be really fucking ironic.

Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction to others or the lack of interest in sex.

I’ve been a horndog since I was about 9. She and I have had very different experiences growing up.

My mom tells me I used to play with myself as a baby. To my knowledge, my daughter has never experimented with that. (As an aside, my mom was 27 when she gave birth to me, and I was 27 when I gave birth to my daughter, so there’s always this eerie parallel running in my head – how DIFFERENT I am from my mom, who’s only had one sex partner her entire life and suffers from a host of mental illnesses.)

When I was 9, I was molested by an older adopted brother, which exposed me to sex early and manifested itself as a hypersexual mindset. I was drawing dirty pictures in 3rd grade, and writing erotica at age 12. I was making out with girls at 11 and boys at 13.

My daughter has never been molested. So far, the only bad things that have happened to her on that front is 1) one man on the internet sent her a cock shot, 2) one man flashed her while she was walking down the street, and 3) one man grabbed her butt in a public swimming pool. Each time, she was horrified and disgusted.

She does a lot of research online for her writing projects and is into anime and deviantART. This means she runs into adult content from time to time. As soon as she encounters it, she backs the hell up – she has absolutely no interest in it.

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Doing God’s Work

By Kendra Holliday | July 3, 2014 at 8:31 pm

Never a dull moment!

Never a dull moment!

“I would NOT want to deal with your inbox,” I’ve had more than one person tell me.

“I can’t imagine what kind of random messages you get!” I’ve had others say with slight envy.

Yep, they run the gamut, and they are sometimes annoying, sometimes heartbreaking, and ALWAYS interesting.

For instance, last week I had some guy ask me if he could buy my pubic hair for $20.

I’ve had men ask me if putting Ben Gay on their testicles will cause harm, if I will crush their balls, if I will meet with them and then cancel at the last minute or no-show (hence my reservation policy), if I will fly to Florida so they can shave my head again, if I will do a Skype call with them for advice and then demand I wear a skirt/no panties/blouse/no bra, ask me if they can send me a gift and then not do it (um, why?), if I will sell them my used panties, if I will be their pen pal, ask me for free advice and then not thank me… you get the idea. Lots of entitled time wasters out there.

This week, I had two different men gift me out of the blue. One got me an ebook off of my Amazon wish list (a book all about erotic fantasies!) then requested a consultation with me.

The other gave me $10 via Square.

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How Do You Overcome Disgust of Semen?

By Kendra Holliday | July 1, 2014 at 6:15 am

Dear Kendra,

I wanted to ask your advice on how to convince my girlfriend to get more into oral sex. She learned in one of her nursing classes that cum is basically the same thing as snot, and ever since has been disgusted by it.

Getting her to do it now (and she’s really good at it!) takes an act of congress. She isn’t interested in spitting either, as she doesn’t even want the precum in her mouth. Giving and receiving oral is a very important part of intimacy to me.

My reply:

First of all, I really wish people teaching nursing classes wouldn’t sabotage sex lives. A friend of mine who is in nursing school told me his instructor gravely informed the class that anal sex can rupture the rectum, and should never be attempted.

As far as your question goes, I have also noticed that semen has the consistency of snot and doesn’t taste like ambrosia. It contains protein, vitamin C, calcium, chlorine, cholesterol, citric acid, creatine, fructose, lactic acid, magnesium, nitrogen, phosphorus, potassium, sodium, vitamin B12, and zinc. It’s about 20 calories a shot, which is usually 1/2 – 1 teaspoon. I honestly wished it tasted better for me, but I’ve happily come to terms with it, as have these 100 people who share their creative cum swallowing tips on this highly informative page.

I’ll never forget the woman a therapist told me about who would habitually lay a lace hanky down primly on her husband’s belly to “catch the mess.” She probably thought she was being accommodating to be down there, but it drove her husband nuts.

Then there was the time I was eager to eat my man’s cum out of Rockabilly Girl’s freshly fucked pussy, but as she swung her leg over my head, a glob of it nailed me in the eye dammit. Don’t you hate when that happens?

Have you ever been put off by semen in the past? What helped you get over it? I have a rule that I only swallow the ones I love, but for those of you who will swallow casually, what are your thoughts on it?

Liberator Wedge & Throe, First Class Bedroom Accessories

By Kendra Holliday | June 25, 2014 at 10:00 am

wedge

Liberator Wedge

Liberator is a line of innovative sex furniture shapes and gear that protects your furniture. Out of all the options, I was most interested in the Liberator Wedge and Fascinator Throe for these reasons:

  1. A friend of mine swore by the Wedge for oral and intercourse. At a 27 degree incline, it puts the pussy on the perfect serving platter and allows easy access deep penetration for several positions. It makes sex easier for all parties involved. It even comes with a carrying case with handle for easy portability.
  2. I have a serious hangup when it comes to making a mess on the bed. This inhibits my ability to ejaculate, which puts a damper on things. We’ve tried using towels and an old baby crib liner decorated with pastel pink and yellow giraffes (NOT SEXY) but I was still holding back. I was eager to find a solution to this problem and Throe caution to the wind.

I’m happy to report that I can gush freely about both these products, and highly recommend adding them to your sexy arsenal.

Both came in sexy black velvet, which means we couldn’t use them at my house due to my light-haired cats, so we set up shop at his house. We showered together, I emptied my bladder, then we retired to the bedroom, where the Throe was laid out over the Wedge. The Throe covers a lot of real estate, measuring 60″ x 54″ – one side is velvety, while the other side is satin.

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An Interview with Rachel, Crossdresser

By Kendra Holliday | June 19, 2014 at 8:15 am

I'm just a sweet transvestite...

I’m just a sweet transvestite…

Last night I saw the musical Billy Elliot. In it, a boy experiments with wearing female clothes. I was interested to see older men in the audience show visible discomfort/disgust at the concept. It’s crazy how men dressing in women’s clothing is still so taboo in our society.

Meet Rachel, a 48-year-old man who is getting more and more in touch with his/her feminine side…

What is your sexual orientation?

I’m attracted to women. But being trans can blur what it means to be hetero or ‘normal’. Bi or lesbian? It’s a weird sensation being two genders at times.

How long have you fantasized about CD?

Since I was about 6 years old. I can remember having a Spiderman comic book that also had Wasp Woman and Black Widow in it. I liked Spiderman a lot, but I always wanted to be the Black Widow in her tight black outfit.

I also had very vivid dreams about being able to ‘wear’ a girls body. In the dream I would be a girl until I heard someone coming and I would change back instantly. After that there were only a few instances of trying on pantyhose. I mostly buried all desire to crossdress until about 7 years ago.

Are you married?

Yes. I have been married for 20 years to my one and only love. She has had a difficult time adjusting, I’m trying my best to be sensitive to her feelings while also true to myself.

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My Teen Daughter is Repulsed by Cocks

By Kendra Holliday | June 15, 2014 at 8:28 pm

Sigh. Stupid dick pics

Sigh. Stupid dick pics

A while back I shared my stance on unsolicited cock shots.

I really don’t like them.

Some women don’t mind them. Some women even welcome them. In fact, you can feel free to send your cock shots to this website for review.

I’d prefer that over you sending them to my 13-year-old daughter.

Seriously, you guys are ruining dicks for her.

She’s been surfing the internet for almost four years now, and four times she has received unsolicited cock shots.

Each time, it’s like a disgusting slap in the face for her, and each time, she feels more repulsed by men and their junk.

The unsolicited cock shots have occurred to her in chat rooms, where she identified as a female and had a picture of a guinea pig as her avatar.

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The Father, The Son, and The Wholly Man

By Matthew | June 15, 2014 at 5:00 am

“Fatherhood” by Viktor Mikhaylovich Vasnetsov

Ed Note: This is a guest post by my partner, Matthew. He is the father of two children.

A couple of weeks ago, I started hearing the yearly buzz of “Father’s Day” gifts, salutations and tributes.  I started thinking a bit more in depth on the subject of Fatherhood and what it means to me.

Being a Father is synonymous to me with being a man. I hear so many people speak of “men” they know or have connections with and then start divulging details about these people.

I know women who demand flowers from their husbands as a way of apologizing for an act of relationship treason.

I know women who are dating “men” right now, but speak of nothing but their shortcomings.

I know of “men” whose wives have gotten up and walked away from them while they were eating her pussy.

I know of “men” who don’t make an effort to spend time with their children.

I know of “men” who can’t separate business from pleasure and vice versa.

I know of “men” who are so weak themselves, that they show their “strength” by preying on the eager and ignorant.

I know women who have settled for a “man”.

I know of “men” who live in their mother’s basement.

I know of “men” who can’t dress themselves.

I am sure you know plenty of “men” like this as well.

If a man has children, they are his number one priority.

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Fisting Demo June 13!

By Kendra Holliday | June 4, 2014 at 9:00 am

Fistful of Dollars!

Fistful of Dollars!

I’m doing my FIRST EVER FISTING DEMO June 13. You can read more details and find out how to RSVP here.

I’ve only been fisted three times in my life, and I figured hey, now would be a good time to do it in front of a crowd of people. It’s always good to stretch your boundaries, right?

Actually, I was hoping someone else would volunteer, but the woman I asked to do it had to pass, because her female partner wasn’t comfortable with “the male gaze.” Personally, I’m fine with the male gaze and male energy, as long as it’s on my terms, which is why I want the crowd to be gender balanced for the comfort of everyone present. The men don’t want to be surrounded by men, and the women don’t want to be outnumbered by men.

Anyway, since I was going to be doing it with a new partner, and I haven’t done it since my hysterectomy, I figured it would be a good idea to get a practice run in before the demo.

OMG it was so intense and worthwhile!

And now, I can say I’ve been fisted four times in my life.

We had it planned for a Sunday afternoon. I had been looking forward to it for weeks, but the day before, I discovered an ingrown hair down there, closer to my taint, and the blemish bugged the hell out of me! It’s like getting a zit right before a photo shoot. Oh well, at least it happened now instead of at the big event.

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Sexy Massage

By Kendra Holliday | May 31, 2014 at 5:11 pm

Touch me.

Touch me.

I came out of the shower wrapped in a towel and laid down on the bed. As soon as I did, Matthew recalled the time I pretended to be a massage therapist who had my way with him.

With the flip of a switch, he transformed into a man I didn’t know, who was giving a massage to a woman he did not know.

He put his big, warm, rough hands on my back and leaned down to ask, “How long are you in town for?”

“What?” I said, momentarily confused, but then I caught on. “Oh, until Sunday.”

“Are you here for business or pleasure?” he murmured as his hands swept down my back.

“A little of both,” I sighed with a tingle.

The towel covered my ass. He rubbed my arms, my neck, my lower back. “How did you hear about me?”

I replied somewhat shyly, “My girlfriend recommended you. She said you offer select clients a little bit more.”

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