A Mother’s Sexuality: Taking Back MILF

By Kendra Holliday | May 1, 2014 at 5:45 am

A mother can be
a sexually creative person

Written by AV Flox

Please read the article in its entirety HERE.

Intro:

I’ve entertained the discussion of women as Marilyns or Jackies, generalizing to describe problems of misaligned expectations between partners, but it wasn’t until I finished reading America’s Queen, Jackie Kennedy Onassis’ biography by Sarah Bradford, that I realized how wrong these assumptions are, and how damaging they are to women who fall into Marilyn versus Jackie discussions.

Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis, by most accounts, always strove to be a good mother to her children. That much is true. What is not mentioned is that while she was not a sex icon as Marilyn Monroe was perceived, she was not a prude. In the sixties, she is said to have embraced the counterculture and had her share of one-night stands. The accounts and photos of the early years of her marriage to Aristotle Onassis in particular, describe a woman who was comfortable with her body, and who very much enjoyed pleasure. Friends she made later in life describe her as someone who not only enjoyed herself, but freely talked with them about their escapades.

Marilyn Monroe, on the other hand, while idolized as a sex symbol and desired by many men, including Jackie’s husband John F. Kennedy, did not live the fantasy life most envision. In the days before her death in 1962, she made tapes for her psychiatrist Dr. Ralph Greenson, discussing the difficulty she had in achieving orgasm:

What I told you is true when I first became your patient. I had never had an orgasm.

I well remember you said an orgasm happens in the mind. You said there was an obstacle in my mind that prevented me from having an orgasm; that it was something that happened early in my life about which I felt so guilty that I did not deserve to have the greatest pleasure there is; that it had to do with something sexual that was very wrong, but my getting pleasure from it caused my guilt. That it was buried in my unconscious. Through analysis we would bring it to the conscious mind where we could get to the guilt and free me to be orgasmic.

She would eventually achieve orgasm after learning to masturbate and finding a lover who took his time, but the quest for pleasure wasn’t the only thing on her mind, either. Investigations into her involvement with the Kennedys by CBS would decades later paint a picture of Monroe as a woman who was not only informed but passionate about the politics of her time.

My point is that these two women against which so many of us have measured ourselves are not points on a spectrum between virgin and whore, good and naughty, mother and home-wrecker (Marilyn may have slept with JFK, but Jackie became close to Aristotle Onassis during her sister’s affair with him and never stopped competing for his attention with his lover of nine years, the soprano Maria Callas). No, these women aren’t points on a two dimensional plane, they’re complete beings, with their own motives, drives, goals and stories. Just like every one of us….

Read the rest of this article by AV Flox HERE.

Comments

Buddha 2011-07-04 15:17:02

Yeah… she’s a good writer

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Buddha 2011-07-04 17:47:59

I felt compelled to spread the word. Thanks.

http://www.thewritingbuddha.com/blog/2011/7/4/milf.html

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Dan 2014-05-01 20:39:10

Thanks for being brave, Kendra. I’m a dad, a husband and an erotic pioneer, too; in a small way. Not near as brave as you. I read all the articles/links; live in Susie’s home town; love that you work to put new content here 2x wk. A lot of us are on our erotic enlightenment road because of pioneers like you who took the heat. Thanks.

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Thea 2014-05-09 10:57:55

One of my favorite topics. “You can’t have enlightenment without a lot of agitation.” So True, Kendra!

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