By Kendra Holliday | March 7, 2012
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One of the most requested topics I get in St. Louis is for tantra. As far as I know, we don’t have any tantra experts in the St. Louis area or even in the surrounding four hour radius. This means you either need to travel to learn, or Sex Positive St. Louis needs to bring an expert in!
This topic matches my life philosophy perfectly, which is:
As long as you take care of your duties and obligations and are not hurting anyone, you can have as much fun and pleasure as you want.
Simple enough, right?
Barbara’s book is about sex, but it’s so much MORE than sex – like I always say, our sexuality is connected with everything else in our lives. If we can address our sexuality without fear or shame, it frees us up to enjoy other aspects of our lives more fully.
Barbara Carrellas is a little woo woo,
Barbara shares so many of the messages I spout, but she does so in such a loving, compassionate, patient manner. She does an excellent job explaining concepts that might be unfamiliar to the reader.
Therefore, it would greatly behoove you to read this book, as it will clarify and reinforce many truths about sex in a way that will make you feel safe and empowered.
Honestly, I’m embarrassed to admit I hadn’t heard of sex coach and educator Barbara Carrellas until my friend David Wraith told me about her new book and accompanying tour. I’m familiar with many of her other contemporaries – Annie Sprinkle, Nina Hartley, Denise Linn, Bettie Dodson, Dossie Easton and more – so I’m glad I have been introduced to her work and am eager to share it with you.
For instance, she teaches the Something More Factor. No matter where you are when it comes to your own orgasms, whether you’ve never had one or have more than one a day – you can enjoy Something More, if you desire. You can have more orgasms, longer orgasms, deeper orgasms – and orgasms are one ticket to ecstasy and bliss. Having an orgasm creates similar brain waves as meditation.
From the book:
The Something More Factor is what drives us all in erotic – and spiritual – exploration. The longing for Something More impels some people to dive into the deep end of the pool of sexual excess, and stops others from even dipping their toes into the water. The search for Something More requires permission – from oneself or from some higher authority. Even if your family, society, spiritual community, or school encourages you to find Something More, you still need to be able and willing to give yourself permission to go find it.
This is not a traditional sex how-to book. It is not filled with sex tips or techniques. There are many excellent books, blogs, podcasts, and DVDs available today that provide accurate and inspiring information for more creative sex. This book is not meant to replace any of these things. Instead, this book will help you get the most out of them.
I love the descriptions of ecstasy people share with her. One of my favorites is, “Ecstasy feels like God and Goddess are making love with each other inside of my body.”
What is YOUR description of ecstasy?
Mine would be: “Feeling alive and delicious.” OK, that’s a start. And a little cheesy. But you get the idea.
Barbara says that ecstasy is not a goal, and that “ecstatic experiences may be found everywhere along countless paths to self-love and personal growth.” She also point out that:
There is no difference between going-to-work energy, eating-dinner energy, taking-out-the-trash energy, and sexual energy. It’s ALL life-force energy. Because the same life-force energy that flows through us also flows through every living thing on the planet, we are in an ongoing erotic relationship with all of life all the time. How much of it we see, feel, or appreciate is dependent upon how much of this energy we have learned to recognize, accept, and allow.
Seriously, people – Ecstasy is Necessary. Buy this book and get to work on fulfilling your deepest emotional and physical needs.
You deserve it.
Photo by Connie LaFlam