By Kendra Holliday | April 26, 2014
Ideally, I’d like to post two or three times a week – I have so many great topics to cover!
But wow – I’ve been so busy working as a sex-positive activist and passion midwife – helping people birth their sexuality and experience amazing things.
Here’s what I’ve been up to the past couple weeks:
Sex Positive St. Louis hosted a clothing optional bowling party last week.
Then Nerve. Then CNN. Who knew naked bowling would be so newsworthy?!
I will say that YES it is legal to be nude. Last I checked, it is legal to have a body. I’ve walked into that bowling alley many times with my clothed body, what’s the big difference?
We hosted this event because bowling is decidedly not sexy, and we wanted to give people a chance to be naked in a non-sexy context. This event was meant to be playful, social, and body-positive. It’s important to remove the shame and stigma surrounding our bodies. Bodies are meant to be celebrated. Without our bodies, we wouldn’t be able to go bowling or do many other fun things in life!
Here is a better shot of my bowling outfit:
I’ve been devirginizing men and coaching couples on how to navigate non-monogamy.
I hosted an orgy with a speakeasy theme! I’ve been dying for an excuse to wear this dress!
I also loved taking it off. Except the night wasn’t perfect – we tried eating at the Fountain on Locust, but it was packed, so we ended up at Hamburger Mary’s, which turned out to be a disaster. We waited an hour and never got food and it was SO LOUD, so we went hungry to the party.
There were so many hot and fun people there, both old and new friends.
At one point during the party, I was having a threesome. She was going down on me, he was kissing my breasts. I was lying naked on a vintage medical exam table. This guy came walking up to me, leaned over me, and started chatting me up.
He said something like, “How’s it going?”
Annoyed, I said, “Who are you?”
He smiled smugly and started in with, “I was at the bowling party last night with David Wraith…”
I cut him off. “Excuse me, but I’m trying to have a moment here.” I was so pissed! He walked away.
He got the same etiquette rules as everyone else – too bad he didn’t go to Sex Etiquette class SEX+STL held the other night. These are the rules I share with everyone prior to a play party:
ETIQUETTE: This is a play party. To all of those who attended our previous parties, we look forward to welcoming you back for another awesome evening. To all of our new guests, we look forward to welcoming you and your unique sexual energy to make this a memorable evening for everyone. While it is very likely you will see some sexy people engaging in some naughty acts, you are not obligated to play. Observing, being a sexy presence, playing with your partner, playing with friends, or playing with NEW friends are all welcome activities. Enjoy the party on your own terms. Take in the sights, get comfortable.
You can expect the first hour or two to be like a regular party with mingling and warming up. After that, you can expect to see some sexy action. There is a large open space, as well as more secluded areas. You are not obligated to do anything. This type of party is new to a lot of people. You can hang out, socialize, get frisky, get naked, play with your partner, play with friends, play with someone new – whatever feels right to you.
Be respectful, friendly and polite. Feel free to ask others if they’d like to play. Feel free to say “no thank you” if you don’t feel like it. Pay attention to body language. Don’t be pushy. If you see someone expressing their sexuality, don’t just assume you can join in. Don’t interrupt a scene. Ask before touching. Some people like watching. Some people like being watched. Some people like group sex. Some people like women. Some people like men. I like both! Enjoy the unique erotic energy!
Here’s a cute pic of me with Jade from Kink and Poly!
Finally, I had a playdate with Sissy Maid and Bianca. Here is Sissy Maid cleaning my bathroom, what a good sissy!
I’ll be taking a couple trips in the next month or so – first to LA area in California, then Philly.
Phew! I’ll try my best to keep up with all the good stuff. If you ever wonder what I’m up to, check my twitter feed – I update that daily.