By Kendra Holliday | November 25, 2016
Category Archives: Sex Toys
The other day, my friend told me he wanted to come out, but he was afraid.
He’s a polyamorous bisexual swinger, and was worried about judgement.
So, I made this video offering tips on coming out.
He watched it and said, “My only hesitation around coming out is the potential adverse impact on our 10 yr old daughter. If it wasn’t for that, I would have done it already. I feel like we need to come out to her first. I don’t want her to hear it from anyone but us.”
I replied, “It’s respectful to start with loved ones first, you’re so right.”
And then, I made this video.
Well, guess what!
He took the plunge, and talked to his daughter. And you know what? It went fine!
He reported, “I did it! I talked to our daughter! We are out to her! It was very uneventful. I had an opening and I took it. She was very open and understanding and said ‘Do whatever you want as long as you stay married.’ Once she heard we both knew about each other’s relationships and our marriage was solid, it was all good. It felt very natural and healthy.”
By no means am I taking full credit for pushing him in the right direction, but I did provide gentle encouragement and influence.
And that feels AWESOME!
OH and PS: After my daughter dug through my box of sex toys and learned what they were, I went ahead and proudly displayed them in my bedroom! It’s a shame to hide functional works of art, don’t you agree?
And, PS2: My daughter knows I have sex with most of my friends, so when she finds out I haven’t had sex with one of my friends, she is SURPRISED! LOL!
Such as, David Wraith. We have never had sex! But we’ve certainly been emotionally intimate. 😉
Much love and encouragement to you and your loved ones!
By Kendra Holliday | October 11, 2016
One of the things I LOOOOOOVE about my “job” is that I get to explore roleplay and role reversal.
This is super therapeutic for both me and my clients, because we are dealing with a patriarchal cesspool and it is EXHAUSTING us.
So, it’s nice for me to take control and power, and for the man to surrender and get in touch with his submissive side – all consensually, of course.
I take great pride in being a fantasy facilitator, a safe haven for perverts. We like to work the kinks OUT.
I’ve played with plenty of remote control vibrators meant for a woman to wear tucked in her panties at a party or bar and for her partner to control, but I haven’t been able to reverse the role – until now.
Of course butt plugs can be worn by any gender, because we ALL have assholes, but for the purpose of this review, I will focus on the man butt in the receptive role.
I had a session scheduled with a darling male client the other day, and he is joyfully creative. He has allowed me to explore things new to me – to ME! – such as the NutBuster and the Humbler (if you don’t know what those are, google them, or beg me for further explanation).
So it was with great delight I was able to surprise him with a test drive of the new b-Vibe trio remote control vibrating butt plug.
This thing is fucking awesome!!! Very deluxe and powerful.
Here it is, next to the Magic Wand for size comparison:
Might be intimidating to a beginner, but a good size for optimum placement and FEELS.
I love that the charger cord is labeled “b-Vibe“, so I can easily find it among my box of sex toy charger cords. Believe me, it can get confusing.
You can plug it right into any USB port to charge it. Two hours of charge = one hour of play.
The remote has a big watch battery:
The plug is very well designed, made with body safe silicone, a flared base, and lights up all fancy when it’s turned on (it flashes when it needs to be charged):
By Kendra Holliday | July 12, 2016
Years ago, I acquired this impressive, red stripey strap on:
But it was not great quality, so I got this black one next, which was a little bit better:
It vibrates and is a decent size, but it’s still not the superior quality I deserve.
A friend of mine showed me this amazing corset design fit for a Queen called Cherry Minx by Aslan Leather, and lo and behold, one of my dear and doting submissives got it for me!
Now I’ll need to decide on a good cock set to go with it – I’ll definitely need small, medium, and LARGE.
Whenever I do it, I’m reminded of how much work goes into thrusting. It takes practice, and makes me appreciate all the effort men put into their quest for sex.
A man I know who enjoys pegging with his wife told me he loves the act, but not the term. The term “pegging” came about years ago from a contest Dan Savage ran with his readers. It isn’t the best way to describe such an intimate, loving act, is it?
By Kendra Holliday | June 17, 2016
I found out about yoni eggs by happenstance at a party, when I met a vivacious woman named Dailia. A while back, Dailia had hosted an event featuring a woman from Harlem named Makeda Voletta, aka Queen Lioness. Makeda leads workshops all over the country, featuring topics such as sensual strength training and sacred yoni eggs.
Dailia was hopping around the kitchen bragging about the yoni egg she was wearing.
I looked for an amulet or something, but she laughed.
“You can’t SEE her. She’s inside me.”
OH. DUH. Yoni = female genital region – vulva, clitoris, vagina, etc.
“So what is its purpose?” I asked.
She gushed, “She helps me stay grounded, empowered, tight, toned, stimulated, CONNECTED.”
My eyes widened. I had to find out more.
Read Makeda’s Yoni Egg Basics overview.
By Kendra Holliday | May 7, 2016
The other day someone saw my sex toy curio and remarked, “You sure have a lot of toys for women in there.”
My partner has a lot of toys at his house, too, more of the male and BDSM stuff.
Here are some of my favorite male toys – I recommend these all the time:
Tenga Flip Hole – My partner Matthew reviewed this a while back. I like it better than the Fleshlight. I have to say, he wrote that review five years ago, and he still has that thing and uses it from time to time! It holds up well. Personally, I think it’s really hot watching a guy jack with a toy. Sometimes I’ll look that stuff up on porn sites. It’s interesting how quiet men are when being stimulated, but when they cum, they make sexy noises that turn me on.
Tenga Egg – Women have their yoni eggs; men get Tenga eggs! These are so much fun! While the Flip Hole above is meant to be used again and again, the Tenga Eggs are cheaper and more disposable (though you can use than more than once if you want to). I keep a basket of them by my bed – they come in several designs. I like experimenting with different men – some find the sensation to be spectacular. Some cum fast, some find it feels weird. One of the guys I tried it on was uncircumcised, and he wasn’t that impressed with it.
Cock rings – you can get a set of three silicone rings for less than $10. These are good to have around for backup, or just to switch things up a little. They restrict the blood flow from leaving the penis, so you get a harder, longer lasting erection. Don’t leave one on for more than 20 minutes, though – you don’t want to do any dick damage.
By Kendra Holliday | May 1, 2016
So one day I posted a video on my YouTube channel showing off the difference between two vibrators and how they sounded. It got yanked for being inappropriate, due to the fact that I held an adult toy in my hand for less than 30 seconds. I duplicated the video here, only this time I used kid toys in place of the adult toys. This time it was considered appropriate, and got to stay.
That got me to thinking about baby toys vs. adult toys. (By they way, when my daughter was seven-years-old and found my sex toy stash, she exclaimed, “I’m so glad grownups get toys, too!” Such a healthy response!) Below is a series of toys. Can you guess which is intended for babies, and which are for adults?
By Kendra Holliday | September 4, 2015
As you know, I’m a huge proponent of the Hitachi Magic Wand. I’ve used them for years. I say “them” because I had one for five years, then passed it on to a friend and bought a new one. I also have one at each household – my partner Matthew’s and mine.
I use it twice a day, and if you do the math, that’s a really good value. They might not look sexy, but they sure are sturdy and get the job done!
We added one more to the collection – the new version, which is rechargeable and has cordless capability. Here’s a comparison shot of the old one, top, and the new one, bottom.
Hitachi Corporation is embarrassed to be associated with something that produces countless orgasms, so they have tried rebranding and are just going with the name Magic Wand. There are tons of cheaper knockoffs, but you get what you pay for. The old version costs about $50-60, and the new version is more like $120 (you can shop around for a best price). I think it’s worth the investment.
The old version just had two settings – low and high. It was loud. It was tethered to the wall.
The new version has EIGHT settings – four speeds, and four patterns. You can read product specs here. The buttons are easy to use, and you won’t accidentally switch it off like the old design.
You plug it in to charge, then can disconnect it and have freer reign. The lithium-ion battery charge lasts FOREVER.
By Kendra Holliday | May 22, 2015
I offer a lot of interesting services, and am always up for suggestions.
One of the services I offer are adult toy store tours.
The store is big, clean, spacious, and has a great inventory!
A few years ago, I wasn’t too impressed with the staff. They were surly goth chicks with lots of tattoos and bad attitudes.
When I went in there the other day with a client, I was glad to be greeted by some really nice, helpful staff.
I was all ready to show off for my client my extensive knowledge of adult toys. Was I in for a surprise! As you know, I’ve reviewed sex toys for years, but I haven’t in a while.
Things have changed SOO much in the past few months! There are SO many new, improved products on the market! I felt like a kid getting cake for the first time!
I was so excited, and a little embarrassed to be caught off guard by all the awesome new TOYS!!!
But my client was just as eager and fun-loving as I was, so it was all good!
By Kendra Holliday | May 17, 2015
Once upon a time, there was a little girl named Goldislut. She was wandering through the forest when she came across a little cottage. However, this wasn’t an ordinary house – it was more like The Three Bears Sex Club.
Bold and impudent, she opened the front door.
There, on the table, were three butt plugs lined up in a row – a small, amethyst glass one, a medium wood plug, and a large, menacing black rubber torpedo.
She flipped up her skirt and tried the little amethyst glass plug first.
“This plug is too small!” she complained as it practically disappeared up her bum. The base was not nearly wide enough.
Then she tried the big, black torpedo.
“OW! This plug is too big!” she whined as she just got the tip in. “Not to mention it’s made out of crappy material!”
Then she tried the medium, wooden Treeze tear drop butt plug…
Actually, that’s not exactly how it went down.
Mama Bear and Papa Bear burst in through the other room and caught Goldislut red-handed!
By Kendra Holliday | December 27, 2014
Thanks to the opening of an adult boutique in our area featuring incredibly helpful staff, my wife and I recently started experimenting with S&M and bought some new regular toys as well. As a result, we now have a few whips, a prostate stimulator, a rabbit vibrator and a few other goodies hidden in our closet in a place where, we hope, our teenager will never find them.
When my folks passed away ten years ago, my brother’s wife came across a box of videos and toys when we were cleaning out their house, which caused a bit of embarrassment in the “more than we needed to know” way.
Do you have any suggestions as to how we can avoid this happening to our kid down the road? My main concern about our toys in question has to do with the S&M aspect, something that even mature adults might find a bit disturbing.
I’m thinking a note on the outside of our toybag to the extent that “If you are finding this bag it is because: a- You are snooping; or b- Something has happened to the two of us. If you are snooping- PUT THIS BAG BACK WHERE YOU FOUND IT- we can talk about its contents and answer any question you have if you wish to do so. If something happened to us, please dispose of this bag without opening it. It contains items that we enjoyed during our intimate private times together and, as such, wish them to remain private.”
I’m of the mindset that toys are nothing to be ashamed of – I keep mine out in a display case. When my daughter was 7, we had a talk about sex toys and she was glad to know grownups get to have toys! She has been raised to understand sex is to be explored and enjoyed and can be playful.
How do you feel about your parents having a sex life? Are you glad they did, or would you rather never know the evidence of such? Well guess what? YOU are evidence of their sex life! Was the discovery of the toys a bit embarrassing, or mortifying? In the grand scheme of things, was it a big deal? Not trying to dismiss your feelings on this highly personal matter, just offering an objective perspective.
That said, if you have a different mindset in that your bedroom activities are private and kept separate from other aspects of your life, then your approach is a great one! I love the idea of you stashing the toys with a note that offers a chance to discuss or dispose – it gives the finder options. The wording of your note is sweet and positive, very thoughtful of you!
There is this option for hiding personal items: The Sneaky Sack. It’s a bag that is easily disguised under hanging clothes. That way, you can keep your sex life safely in the closet.
By Kendra Holliday | August 12, 2014
Have you heard of the grapefruit trick?
I read this review from a woman who tried it and was intrigued. I love grapefruit, and my man loves blowjobs!
I asked him if he wanted to try it and he flat out said NO.
“Why not??” I exclaimed.
Fair enough. So much for getting my daily dose of Vitamin C (as in Cum!)
My friends tried it, though! Here is their experience:
“I watched with anticipation as she cut the grapefruit. I’ve had no experience with Fleshlights or any other sort of masturbatory vaginas, so I thought, ‘This could be interesting!’
I lay back on the floor of my kitchen, towel beneath me as she stripped down to arouse me (and keep the citrus off her dress). She began by teasing me with her mouth, my penis coming to attention the flood the pleasure rushing to my head. My eyes were closed because the instructions called for the recipient to be blindfolded because the procedure was supposed to be a surprise.
Suddenly in the midst of the warmup came the main attraction. She slipped the fleshy citrus donut over my cock and squeezed it while continuing her ministrations. There were moments where I felt as though I were inside a Vagina Dentata, a soft, pocket purse of flesh with a hungry mouth at the other end.
And then there were other moments I was a dude with a piece of fruit on his dick.
I was thinking about Led Zeppelin’s “Lemon Song“: “Squeeze my lemon ’til the juice runs down my leg’, as it was a messy affair.
She sucked and licked while squeezing the grapefruit around me. “Slurp! Slush! Squish!” My eyes rolled back in my head. Back and forth my mind went, between Toothed Pussy and Fruit Cock, the pleasure rising from the base of my balls, rising then holding, not going anywhere.
I had peaked and the awareness of the cool sticky juice running my leg took over, and I asked her to stop. I didn’t want her to waste her time. I wasn’t going to cum this way. My lust had only taken me so far, what I really wanted was to be buried inside her listening to her moans of pleasure, something I couldn’t do covered in citric acid.
For hygienic purposes , I jumped in the shower and rinsed off, then met her in the bedroom where the games began in earnest! Orgasms for everyone!
Overall, I would have say I had more fun being smeared with Nutella. It’s messy, but the attention I get is greater than grapefruit. There’s nothing a grapefruit can compare to when someone is excellently working the shaft during a first rate blow job.
I would give it a 4 out of 10 as orgasmic tool. Worth trying, but sort of ‘Meh’ in the end.”
By Kendra Holliday | June 25, 2014
Liberator is a line of innovative sex furniture shapes and gear that protects your furniture. Out of all the options, I was most interested in the Liberator Wedge and Fascinator Throe for these reasons:
- A friend of mine swore by the Wedge for oral and intercourse. At a 27 degree incline, it puts the pussy on the perfect serving platter and allows easy access deep penetration for several positions. It makes sex easier for all parties involved. It even comes with a carrying case with handle for easy portability.
- I have a serious hangup when it comes to making a mess on the bed. This inhibits my ability to ejaculate, which puts a damper on things. We’ve tried using towels and an old baby crib liner decorated with pastel pink and yellow giraffes (NOT SEXY) but I was still holding back. I was eager to find a solution to this problem and Throe caution to the wind.
I’m happy to report that I can gush freely about both these products, and highly recommend adding them to your sexy arsenal.
Both came in sexy black velvet, which means we couldn’t use them at my house due to my light-haired cats, so we set up shop at his house. We showered together, I emptied my bladder, then we retired to the bedroom, where the Throe was laid out over the Wedge. The Throe covers a lot of real estate, measuring 60″ x 54″ – one side is velvety, while the other side is satin.
By Kendra Holliday | April 26, 2014
SPRING is in the air!
And just in time, I get this toy in for review!
An insertable vibrator, with PETALS! The “stamen” goes inside the vagina, and the flexible petals spread out, encompassing the clitoral and perineum regions nicely, making it a pleasurable, all-encompassing vibrator! Fit for a green goddess!
The silicone materials is silky and inviting. It charges with a USB cord, so no need for batteries.
By Kendra Holliday | March 3, 2014
We had the BEST idea!
We’ve played with it a few times in the past, just the two of us, adding a third (SO HOT!), in the shower, and on a waterproof twin mattress. This time we thought it would be fun to try in a jacuzzi spa tub – take a hot bath, shave our crotches, drain the tub, then get messy with Nuru and then have an easy cleanup!
We decided to rent a jacuzzi suite and turn it into a super romantic getaway. We opted for The Cheshire, despite the mixed reviews online. I hoped the people complaining were just being fussy babies. The place had such great ambiance and character, and seemed a better idea than renting some cookie cutter suite near the airport.
The hotel has a literary theme – all the rooms are named after authors or famous works of literature. As a total book slut, this was right up my alley! We opted for the “Death on the Nile” room.
Here’s the pièce de résistance :
By Kendra Holliday | November 5, 2013
I love giving these Tenga Eggs out to my guy friends as party favors! One of them was nice enough to review it for me (male sex toys give me penis envy! I know, I know women have so many more toy options, nyah nyah!) AND he took action shots!
Kendra gave me a Tenga egg, and asked me to let her know what I thought of it. I’d heard of them, but had never really seen one. You can buy them online at Walgreens and Amazon, and of course the main Tenga website and various sex toy vendors.
The packaging was the size of your typical plastic candy filled egg, and was heavier than a chocolate egg. Each of the different styles has a different color wrapper. It may be my older eyes, but the green print on the directions to the “clicker” egg was hard to read.
Luckily, it is rather self explanatory once you open it up. The center of the egg contains the lubricant pack, which is just the right amount to get (and keep) things sliding along nicely.
It took a few tries to get the egg to go over the tip of my cock and stay there, but that may have been partly due to never using one before, and not being fully erect when trying it – evidently my penis was feeling shy about having its picture taken.
Once the egg was in place, I could feel the coolness of the lube, which warmed up quickly, and the small “nubs” on the inside of the egg (the “clicker” has small nubs on the inside – the other eggs have different textures in them – all of which sound interesting).