Kinky Stories & Relationship / Sex Advice

"I have coordination issues." Yeah, me too. 69ing looks great on paper and I'm willing to attempt it now and again but for the most part what you've said here is precisely my issue; I can't keep up a rhythm that's pleasing to my guy and focus on my own pleasure at the same time. I'd much rather take turns.

Hrmph. I had no idea the aversion was so common. In my (extremely limited) experience I'd only known one gal that didn't enjoy it.

Or, now that I think harder about it, one gal that told me that she didn't much enjoy it. Huh.

As a dude, I'd rank it very high as far as favorite positions go.

Also, it's worth noting that I'm from the part of Michigan where I-69 ends going into Canada. Very near there is I-75, where exit 69 is for Big Beaver Rd.

Yep, there's a Hooters there.

I find it hard to concentrate, but there are times when I can really get into it. I actually prefer to be underneath, I find it to be more comfortable, relaxing and easier to get into it. However, that greatly depends on the man on top... a forceful guy would take the fun and relaxation out of that situation. For me, anyway.

While I enjoy 69, I've never really been good at it. I guess I also have coordination and focus issues - ooh, was that a butterfly????

Another thumbs-up vote for 69 from this dude, for just the reason you mentioned. A faceful of pussy makes any situation more enjoyable!

I usually like to be on bottom because when I'm on top I feel like I am smashing the girl. Also if they start to gag and I'm focusing on pleasing her I can't really notice. So her being on top is also a sort of safety thing too.

One of the main reasons I like being on the bottom is that it is much easier to play with his balls (as oppposed to when I'm on top). When he is on top, he is propped up on his knees, not laying flat on my chest. I use a pillow to make my neck comfy.

my bf absolutely loves 69, I find it hard to concentrate. We normally do it with me on top, but I prefer to be on bottom, he likes me playing with his ass and balls (so do I), but I think him being on top is harder for him.

Love it. I can only assume she does as well, since if I appproach eating her out from any other direction she tries to swing my ass around so it can become 69.

Neither of us comes that way often, but we both get good and ready to. The concentration issues work both ways, but that's part of the game. Isn't it fun to play a game where everybody wins?

And I do love love love it when she comes with my cock in her mouth.

More thoughts:

@Jambi - when I'm on top I feel like I am smashing the girl. [...] So her being on top is also a sort of safety thing too.

I have the same concern.

@TBK - I don't really like the thought of my ass junk hanging in his face and on display.

Girls, men LOVE your "ass junk" hanging in their face. Don't worry.

@blueeyes - ...but I think him being on top is harder for him.

It is. See Jambi's comment.

@Regin - Neither of us comes that way often, but we both get good and ready to.

THAT'S the spirit! 69 doesn't have to be the end! And...

And I do love love love it when she comes with my cock in her mouth.

AMEN, BROTHER!

Pussy in my face and TBK cumming while my dick is in her mouth....These are two of my favorite things. I get both of them often and boy does she cum hard!!!! You all will hear that soon....

I can also hold someone down when they are on top of me. So it can basically work the same way as if I'm on top

I don't mind it, but I have coordination issues as well, I can't cum in that position unless we are on our sides. I definitely much prefer 69 on our sides because it's more relaxing and when I'm getting close I can just lay there and enjoy it while using my tongue all over his cock and balls hehe.

That postion is wonderful! The way my pelvis is sitting makes it perfect for me to squirt. I giggle when my Dominant need to turn His head and spit to keep from choking! I also found I was worried about my weight "crushing" Him. So, finding a comfy position was almost impossible. I finally confided in Him and said "I think I am just too over weight to do it..." Nonsense He told me. Now I let myself relax on His strong frame and let myself go. :-)

Tally another dude's vote in favor. And no, Belle doesn't care for it; she much prefers to take turns (not least of which because more often than not, she has me tongue her ass instead of her pussy . . .).

Of course, with me, a lady doesn't exactly have to concentrate much to keep me happy, seeing as how a woman sitting on my face is one of my biggest turn-ons. Combine that with the fact that my only other biggest turn-on is forced oral in the other direction . . . which are both doable at once with woman-on-top 69.

Yep, exactly. 69 is distracting - so Instead, I just sit on his face and tease him with his cock near - but not in - my mouth.

Belle- You better hold onto him. That wouldn't work on some of us. ;)

TBK- You really do want some more blog worthy events huh? Bring it.

Oh boy the last two post from TBK and Beast sounds like a good story coming on!
Please do tell...

haha, I used to have a really hard time "getting into it" because I was concentrating too hard. However recently (last night, coincidentally) I decided that instead of trying hard to get him off while 69ing I would just play with in in whatever way struck my fancy and got me going. That way his is getting attention but I'm not really lost in thought. I also ground down on him (yay for girls face-fucking boys!) which was nice.

I'm either on top or we are side to side, it's just easier that way.

"Do gay men 69 successfully?"

This line made me sad, since it makes me think that you have not seen the move "Shortbus"

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shortbus

and this is a flim that you would very much enjoy.

My $.02/worth? I prefer the notion of "I do you; then you do me; we're a hap-py fam-i-ly." Concentrating on pleasing your partner beats being distracted. 69ing is like having an unsuccessful acting career. You only get bit parts. (Ouch!)

I enjoy it. I'm usually on top. I don't come, but I don't mind. It would be stressful to me if I were focusing on getting off, so instead I focusing on getting my boyfriend off. The act itself is what I enjoy. (For me to have an orgasm in general, I have to have no distractions -- not even thrusting. So, for the majority of sex acts, I don't even expect to come - and when we're focusing solely on my orgasm, that's when it happens. :))

first time i squirted when i came was during a 69. Me lying flat on the bed, head hanging over the side, his cock in my mouth. Him standing with his knees resting on either side of my head on the bed, leaning forward and licking me into oblivion.
Not distracting at all, but then i was totally focussed on my sensation not his. I just assumed he was enjoying himself because he loved licking pussy as much as I love sucking cock!