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failed to give him the proper respect? WTF?!?! Someone got too high off of his Dom power.

"this guy is against gay marriage, but forced his "heteroflexible" female slave to eat pussy . . ."

What a fuckwit.

TOne does beautiful work with ropes I love watching him suspend Kitten. I dont know how you could handle it, when TOne spanked me with my husband at the Burlesque show over the stage I yelped, and he was taking it easy on me! Bravo Beautiful!!
~Joy Joy~

WOW! Great to hear you had fun. The bruises are well placed and very hot. Sorry to hear the evening ended on a down note. What type of respect where you required to show that you failed to show? People 'new' to the lifestyle, and I'd say you qualify given the topics of your post and some of your goals, don't always know protocol. That said 'newbies' aren't typically at parties where formal protocol is required. It seems to me, no offense intended, this person has another reason they don't want you there at another party and doesn't have the balls to TELL you why you aren't welcome, so they fall back on the 'snooty sub' excuse, which is lame. He should have had the gumption to put you in your place over your behavior (or request Beast do it.) If he didn't have grounds for that.... well then, it wasn't rude behavior and CERTAINLY not grounds for being dis-invited. Maybe it was the farting? Is there an anti-flatulence league?

Dom Sir Lord Master Top CheDo.

You are not a braty sub you just want more from your dom. Their are a lot of people who need a title or abuse people to give them power. I need to quote someone new that I have just met about being a DOM.

"He loves me and wants what is best for me in my whole life. Because he knows I will offer him what he wants freely, he has no need to suppress me to keep me "in my place" or forcefully pry what he wants from me."

I believe this is poetry!!

Haha.. a list. It strikes me funny as HELL how our lifestyle is based on 'tolerance' but some people are in-tolerant as hell and then clam it's their right to be that way! I guess if you were obnoxious and it was obvious you were not going to change, I'd dis-invite you as well... or I'd explain my position to Beast and re-invite you and watch the punishment ensue! It's still a shame. There are people in the community I don't like and I KNOW there are people in the community who don't like me. ;) We all still seem to get along.

I think it is just that YOU are a taker... lol you need to GIVE a little. Uhmmm yeah, that's it.

Well when I have a party TBK, Beast and you are invited.

To add! I think your first suspension experience could not have been with a better Dominant. TOne is a great guy and excellent with his art. If there were a poster 'Dom'.. (hah if he reads this he'll kill me) I'd say TOne would indeed be Mr March. Accepting, skillful, tolerant, able, and greatly enjoys educating as much as he enjoys playing. Don't be lured into a sense of comfort by his abilities and actions. Not all Dom's in our community are close to his abilities and as skilled in how he handled you. Then again, yer a big girl, I'm sure you already knew that! This turn in your blog has taken great interest for me. Keep posting!

Aww.. his poor feeling.

Now I have a question, the appearance of a Dom truly excites me, a Strong Man is always a turn on, but the thought of experiencing what a Dom would have to offer does make me a little nervous, is that normal? I think if I conquered that I would enjoy what there may be to offer.
~Joy Joy~

First, your 'host' was a jerk. Add me to the list of people that thinks so.

Second, please explain how a service top could be mistaken for a dom. From my understanding of those two words, they're completely different.

That dom was way out of line. He seems to be into torture, not domination.

TBK, I am helping a friend build a dom studio. Once we have it finished you are welcome to use it whenever you like in exchange for write ups in your blog.

Your host sounds like a real douche bag, I would love for you to post his list of grievances.

Sadly there are too many guys out there that when mommy sent them to rent east of eden rented exit to eden and realized that by giving themselves an honorific they could flaunt their misogynistic ways and people would have to respect them because they're "masters" and "lords".

Finally the only problem I have with your description of the party is the drinking, alcohol makes your blood thin and makes you bleed worse, also alcohol impairs judgment in my playroom every always plays clean and sober .

Your ass is almost like a painting of pleasure and pain. I'm not sure if I would have let my ass get that bad though.

A rockin MFM huh? hmmmmmm

Yay! you finally posted about the party! We had such a good time there, both with you and with others, it was such a shame to find out that there were some that were so unhappy there.

As the primary recipient of T0ne's ropes, I can't gush (hee hee!) enough about the marvel of his work, his skill and artistry in handling both the ropes and the submissive. No matter what configuration he hangs me in, he always makes sure I'm absolutely safe, and it's always an incredible experience. He's too modest here to toot his own horn, so I'll brag here for him. He had a great time playing with you that night, and your scene was very intense and exciting to watch.

Here's to more in the future! Next time, let's hang together! He's been wanting to do a double suspension...

Thank you TBK for this post. That was my first private play party as well, and the first time I was ever suspended. Being the first time for me, I had to find my quiet, calm head space because I had no clue what was going to happen, other than I had watched T0ne at several other Flog's and just had that feeling of trust. I agree with others He is very very skilled and has suspended me again since that night and there is no feeling like it in the world. I second the vote for Mr March lol.

As far as others not being happy with you, well no one is ever happy with every one all the time. I enjoyed watching your scene even though I was still shaky myself. Your realness and your fight made it quite the scene to watch.

I give up, what is a stink palm?

TBK TOne is a great guy and excellent at suspension and it sounds like you enjoyed that part of the night and yes private play party are a blast as far as the host, I'm so sorry to here that.

Sir Dave

You can tell Tone if he is going to do some knife work on you. I want in on that:).....LOL

Sir Dave

I go on vacation and I miss all this awesomeness!?!?

Your poor ass, how are you sitting? Have the bruises turned green yet? Either way, your doms did a great job and I have to agree that the bruised ass is pretty hot. The asymmetry adds to the reality and hotness.

What fun. though a good time was had; in the future start screaming bluebird when within two miles of the house with no art.

It was brought to my attention by the person who participated in the consensual scene with my slave that some disparing remarks have been made on this blog concerning my play party. As I was the host of this particular play party (in my home), I believe that some corrections are in order.

Let me be clear as to why TBK is no longer welcome (as I stated respectfully in my email to her): When you come over to someone else's house (after very rudely asking to attend a private play party...a major breach of protocol), you don't ignore your host and hostess. TBK treated my home as though she owned it, and behaved in a way that in any vanilla setting would be considered rude, going so far as to walk out IN MID-SENTENCE while I was giving her a tour (apparently this was to attend to a 'booty call' as mentioned above). My slave (the hostess) was deeply offended by her behavior and we decided not to extend any future invitations to TBK. It is rare that we do not ask people back to a party (though space limitations are making this more necessary), however 'banned' is a strange way to put it...this suggests that being invited is expected, a right if you will, which is how this whole issue began...

As to 'Beast', he apparently also attended the play party at my house...and didn't speak one word to me the entire evening. As I had never met him before that night, this person was and is a stranger to me. I am not in the habit of having strangers into my home. If you wish to be my friend, behave as such.

It is common courtesy to respect other's property, beliefs and expression of the BDSM Lifestyle, especially when one has been granted the courtesy and privalege of attending a PRIVATE BDSM event. These are cornerstones of the Lifestyle and, as a newbie, TBK (and friends) should embrace these concepts. TBK did REQUEST to be allowed to attend the party, after all. A newbie trying to 'call-out' or 'namecall' on a Blog only reflects poorly on that newbie's character.

For the record:

1) My gladiator suit is way cool and I've received many complements on it. If it's not your cup of tea, that's okay -- I don't feel the need to be included in your fetishwear choices either or to approve of the way you sometimes choose to dress up in play. The 'My kink is okay but yours isn't' is juvenile. The Scene is reserved for adults. Please act as such.

2) My slave consensually accepts my orders, with the same level of consent that everyone else who played at the party consented to playing with his or her own Top, Sir/Maam or Master/Mistress. She (and the other lady who participated) enjoyed the experience. It is strange that this is being brought up on this blog, however, as TBK was not present at the time this play happened (as she arrived very late). As I no longer pay attention to this Blog, this entire thread was brought to my attention by THAT VERY LADY who played with my slave (and has voiced her objections to the way a very hot scene is being unfairly portrayed). Is it being suggested that a 'heteroflexible' female slave shouldn't be allowed to have a girl-girl experience under the direction of the Master she chooses to serve??? How hypocritical is this? To whomever wrote this post, please educate yourself, especially with regard to the term 'heteroflexible'.

3) I have made no demand ever that any guest address me as 'Sir' or 'Master'. These terms are reserved for my owned slave and for those whom I am playing with, and are used consensually. I'm known to be very easy to get along with and pretty hard to offend; pissing me off actually takes some effort -- however, because of this, I have a lot of friends and getting on my bad side generally will make one unpopular pretty quickly.

4) My political beliefs are soundly reasoned. Disagree with those opinions if you choose; this is America...however, surely you don't think that everyone in the BDSM scene voted for Obama or supports gay marriage? It is arrogant not to conceive that a person such as myself who is as grounded in SSC and individual freedoms may have rational opinions which differ from your own? Diversity is the cornerstone of the Lifestyle -- embrace it, or remove yourself from the Scene. As a matter of point, if one reads my posts on the matter of gay marriage, one will find that I argue that if gay marriage is to be allowed, multiple-partners (polyamorous marriage) must also be allowed. I also have specific practical concerns concerning the heirarchy of child custody/adoption...but this is a topic far off thread. Having differing political views is no excuse for bad guest behavior.

5) Were I to 'discipline' a submissive guest who doesn't belong to me, I would be guilty of violating consent and be committing a MAJOR protocol violation. This is not something that we do in the Lifestyle because CONSENT is one of the CORNERSTONES OF WHAT WE DO!!! The lifestyle is more than buzzwords like 'safeword'. I've been part of this community going on 14 years -- those joining the Scene learn the rules and understand them please! As to a poorly behaving guest in my home, I would be within my rights to treat said guest the same way one would at any vanilla house party. Speaking to 'Beast' over this matter wouldn't have done any good, as the specifics of the relationship were never made clear by TBK, and because he was equally guilty of behaving as a rude guest -- perhaps more so than TBK because he was extremely non-communicative, despite my friendly overtures. To properly describe what this was like, it was like having a clique from high school (people you barely know of) walk into your house, eat your food, use your toys and ignore you...then walk out with barely a goodbye and wonder why they aren't going to be invited back.

6) I gave TBK an opportunity to make ammends by trying to become friends with me and my slave (this was after said party), however, she has chosen to go her own way, which I have respected. All in all, I've treated her disrespect as a newbie mistake and haven't taken to any public forum to voice a grievance (though at her age, I would have expected better manners).

I'm far too old (having been in this Community from the very beginning of the public Scene in St. Louis) to tolerate high school crap from newbies and internet wannabes showing disrespect for those of us who built this community. Anyone who would like to challenge me concerning this matter is welcome to do so in person at a realtime event -- I will direct you towards people who were actually there -- however this will require stepping out from behind your computer screen into the real world. I am easily found at any Flog munch. It is my opinion that those who snipe on a blog without benefit of respect, experience or knowledge are cowards, fools and children.

Jeff
Master of Amy
'Dombutfriendly' on fetlife.com (where pictures of me in my 'gladiator outfit' may be found)

Sir Jeff- As I said to you that night, whether you recall or not, thank you for having us into your home. It was "way cool" and a great time was had. The rest is better said in person, but quite possibly not worth it at this point. I look forward to seeing you "in the real world" soon.

Jeff,

Don't be such an uptight little prick. You are whining about TBK asking to be invited, but you DID go ahead and invite her. Maybe you're embarassed that a sub was more aggressive than you, and you suck as a dom.

And fuck you for being a hypocritical piece of shit for getting off on watching other people fuck and your own partner get it on with another woman, but thinking simple monogamous 3-minute buttfucking gays getting married is unacceptable for our society. FUCK YOU!

-signed, a supervanilla married monogamous hetero who is ten times more open minded than your weak bdsm wanna be ass

This is the sort of thing that has made me avoid any sort of "scene," 'cause I am afraid it would be like this: leather-clad, paunchy, middle-aged men flipping through thick rule books, lecturing me that I violated paragraph seven, subsection B, of their Dom Code.

Though it is interesting that while well versed in the Dom Code, they seem to know so little about basic rules of etiquette. Sure, TBK might have committed a _faux_ _pas_, however, the host committed a gross affront when he not only took notice of it, but actually sent a whiny e-mail.

The model of courtesy here is the Beast, with his reply. If you don't like someone, just thank them for coming, and don't invite them again. The Beast most properly thanked you for inving him, and kept his---probable---opinion that the host is a world-class douche all to himself.

Also, I _hate_ the way BDSM people butcher the English language by capitalizing common nouns. Oh, I know it has "deep meaning," but I still find it deeply unaesthetic.

Finally, thought a guest on your blog, I would like to demand that I be referred to only as "His Serene Highness, Momus," and addressed as either "Your Serene Highness," or "My Dread Sovereign."