Kinky Stories & Relationship / Sex Advice

Like I said to my wife on our wedding night... "I've never slept with a married woman before."

But on a serious note, yeah sure, I would. It is after all their decision, and we are not supposed to judge others by the sexual or emotional paths they choose to travel. But I'm not going to be sneaking around, and I am not going to be blamed for any overpowering seduction or anything... If they end up in trouble with their partner, it would be because of their choice, and they have to accept that responsibility up front.

As long as they are fine with that, I'll feel free to take what I want.

Each situation is different, and it's hard to say, "I would never sleep with a person cheating on their spouse." That being said, I avoid it all costs. It generally is going to end in drama, and I don't want to be sucked in. Also, I have my own spouse and kids to consider. I wouldn't want to suck them into drama because of the person I chose to get involved with. And no, I wouldn't be cheating, my husband and I are poly.

I have slept with a married man before.

A friend of mine had been playing with him for a couple of months and wanted to give him a hot threesome. She told me his wife knew that he played outside the marriage and friend even spoke with wife, once, and wife never wanted to hear from friend again-friend best be clean and better not even *think* about getting knocked up.

So friend, married guy and I ended up having a hot three way including rope, floggers, nipple clamps and my first experience with wax play. After it was over, married guy hopped in the shower and went home to wifey. Friend and I stumbled off to dinner in a post coital haze. Yeah, that was a great night.

I always thought I'd never play with/fuck a married person but things change, people change and situations are different. Like Frank said, we're all adults here and we all make choices. If someone is already in a relationship and wants to fuck/play with me, it's his/her decision. If he/she gets in trouble with his/her partner, it's that person's fault for not communicating his/her needs with the partner and choosing to go behind the partner's back to get their needs met.

Short answer? No.

Honesty is highly important to me. Of course I'd fuck a married woman . . . *if* her husband was aware of everything that was going to be going on. If she'll lie to her husband, then why on earth would she be honest with me?

I should make it clear that this is an issue of my own personal preference, not a vital question of ulitmate moral good and evil. It's just that my experience is, in every way, shape, and form, that my life simply functions better if I'm honest with everyone, in every way, that I can be.

Like I say, this is just a sticking point for me; I don't care if someone else decides to cheat or enables someone else's cheating. But I am inclined to trust those persons less . . . how could I not be less inclined to trust someone who is known to deceive others? So . . . *shrug* Live and let live, but for my own part, only people who are unafraid to tell others the whole, entire, messy truth get my cock.

I'm still a virgin, but I would like to sleep with a married woman and have a threesome someday.
But it still sounded fascinating and incredibly hot though, and now Andromeda just sticks out in my mind. I would have LOVED to be in Beast's place!

Personal Lust modulates our morality. You had just mentioned the Golden Rule. Is the deciever totally ok with their partner doing the same? Does the perspective and judgement change if your friend was telling the story of her betrayal by her philandering husband's lies? We are huge advocates of open communication unless we have a secret worth keeping. I have earned my scarlet letter several times. It is thrilling to the paricipants but the danger is shared by everyone that can be devastated by its consequences(partners, children, family, friends,..)
The Love of my life began as an adulterous affair. "Are you two married?" not to each other. eowyn said it, DRAMA. Adultery feeds the drama from Jerry Springer to Greek Mythology. Proverbs 5:19 "...may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love. Why be captivated, my son, by an adultress? Why embrace the bosom of another man's wife?" Why?? Pretty fuckin rhetorical question. Why ask why? Why??? How about because her breasts satisfy me always, and I am ever captivated by her love?

We each answer to ourselves. If you, Beast and Galaxy Girl are good with it, then so be it. Perhaps there's more to the situation than meets the eye. Her marriage is her problem or her joy. You followed her lead. You didn't push her into something she didn't want. As far as I can see, you did nothing wrong.

My thoughts. it was wrong, not on your part but on hers, as was said before. if it was open and honest that was one thing. But this was a betrayal of trust. What about the husband then? if he cheated and she found out what would her response be? outrage? indifference? it all reeks of double standards. Lust is powerful true, but if your morals can be changed by it then your just not as moral as you thought you were. that doesn't have to be a horrible thing, everyone interprets right and wrong in their own way but this... as someone cheated on i just hope that no one gets hurt over this. someone probably will and it will be the person who doesnt deserve it, the husband, the husband who for all his "cluelessness"(how do women who don't communicate expect them to learn?) did no wrong but was still lied too.

This a line that I would never cross. It is my choice to never get involved or sexual with someone that has a committed partner unless I have personally gotten to know the partner. Likewise, I would not dally with someone that has not met my partners.

I've fucked two married men when their wives didn't know (and once when my then husband didn't know) and nothing good came from it. I regret it today - for the hurt it caused, for the shame I feel - these things I don't think will go away ever. It is my cross to bear... but....

I don't think I'd change it either if I had the chance because it taught me that I am not about monogamy and that my life and those I love is/are better when I am allowed my freedom to sleep with whom I choose and I allow my lovers the same choice.

And I would sleep with a married man or woman again if their circumstances were similar to your friend's. I am not married to them, nor do I believe I would want any form of commitment from them. But if I could bring some joy into their life - even for a brief moment and no one would be hurt, I'd certainly contemplate it.

I don't see the world in black and white, this is right and that's wrong. Everyone's circumstances are as individual as the individual. Maybe others can live in that bland black and white life, but I can't.

Whew. Difficult question. I never used to know any married people. I graduated from college two years ago, and all of a sudden, I'm surrounded by married people. Some of them quite attractive. I tend to agree with the people who say "If they're lying to their spouse, how can you know they won't lie to you?" -- but if it's not going to be a repeat event, maybe that doesn't matter.

An analogy I just thought of. There are the people who want to stop gun violence by taking away guns. Then there are people who say that guns don't kill people; people kill people. Would taking myself away as a partner-to-adultery be preventing the married person from committing adultery? Probably not. But would I be able to live with myself if I were the one who made it happen? Also quite possibly not.

This would've been any easy answer for me ("no") until recently. There's a married man at work who I would probably be falling all over if I myself weren't in a monogamous relationship. Heh.

It sounds like you went about this very maturely, TBK, and that counts for a lot. And I'm really glad the three of you had fun!

Never in a million years would I do that. Just my preference. Nor would I ever respect someone who would tell me "come on your hubby would never know." That is someone who is not worth my time.

Odd how people who commit adultery always have a rationale for it; loveless marriage, depression, kids, alcohol etc. Yet affairs never stay a secret. Everyone gets caught sooner or later. Just ask Bill Clinton, John Edwards, Elliot Spitzer, or half of Hollywood. They start out great and exciting and end in drama and too often a court case, especially where kids are concerned. I for one, never want to hear an attorney ask "When did you start having sexual relations with the defendant? How long? Did you know the defendant was married?"

I agree with TOne, it's a dangerous line to cross. Interesting the women commenters above seem willing to cross it and most of the men do not. Hmmm....

This is a touchy subject for sure. Of course all the detail of prior conversations, interactions and contemplation with the involved parties couldn't be included here. By the time it came down to "crossing the line" in this particular situation, it was a well informed choice.

In my early 20s, I was with two women who were married and two others who were engaged to be. I suppose should clarify that these were 4 distinct affairs. I wanted to be personally close with none of them, but just to have ephemeral affairs like I suspect this will have been with your Andromeda. The two engagements were broken off. In one, the parents of two children failed to get married and the father drifted away. In the other, I lost a good friend and found myself relentlessly pursued by a very annoying and lonely girl who hoped to replace her fiance. Ultimately I treated her cruelly to get her out of my life, losing a second friend. Of the two marriages, one suffered no ill effects. The other failed catastrophically, adultery in that case being met by physical abuse from the husband, a visit to him by the police, and again the breaking up of a family with a child.

Of course, none of these things were my problems. Myself and the married women or engaged ones knew in each case what we were doing and even discussed it at length before letting our actions break their commitments. True, we didn't predict any of what would happen, but I don't think we were so stupid as to imagine that anything that eventually happened wouldn't be among the possible consequences.

Like you guys, I got to enjoy myself and be safe from the costs. If they chose to take actions that eventually led to their own feelings being hurt, or to their children getting less effective parenting, that's their deal. All I did was make it possible and easy. Is that wrong?

I think a lot depends on how you make your moral calculations. You guys seem to be pretty attached to egoistic hedonism. If that's how you play it, what could be wrong with what you've done? Nothing. But if you start to think about other people, then you'll see that you've put your friend, her husband, and her kids at risk of suffering various harms. And not risks you are likely to have foreseen during lusty "prior conversations, interactions and contemplation" (which could, after all, be included here in some detail).

Ever the romantic. I feel a Beast as Perseus allegory coming on.

I have been cheated on and the cheater, but never the other woman. While I dispute the "cheater" label, I was technically with another man while married. Before I consummated anything, however, I told my husband that I wanted a divorce.

I think I will always do my damndest to avoid those situations. All the drama and hurt don't seem worth it. I was lucky in that I had no children. I think that cheating usually just encourages dishonesty--but all situations are different.

Thank you for a wonderful time TBK and Beast. I am not planning on a repeat performance unless I have some changes in my life, but it was a moment I will never forget and will fantasize about for a very long time.

We all walk different paths and make our own decisions right or wrong, its our own doing. I am thankful that although most of you disagreed with the cheating and may not respect what I did or why, thank you for not going on about how bad of a person I am for doing so.