The "staring" is a problem, it's far different from engaging eye contact and can come across as creepy. She's definitely in need of a strong, confident, sexual man, not that easy to find. Probably why she's attracted to her trainer but seducing him is a bad plan-unless she wants to risk losing a good trainer!And not just if it goes bad. The dynamic of their relationship will change and her training could be affected. The sexual tension between them now probably keeps her motivated, but don't go there. Enjoy the crush but that's all. Someone else at the gym might sense that chemistry and sexiness though and find her attractive. It's also a place where she's probably genuine, not out to impress anyone and open to friendship, which is where relationships should really start.

Maybe do some modeling on campus for art classes or local groups? I can see you with a quiet/mellow artsy guy who would just love to have a full time muse.

When I hear "flinty", I think Fran Drescher.

Isabella, interesting that you think she needs a strong man, I was thinking more of a contrast to her - hence the sweet blond guy. I'm more with sorryb in that she'd do well with some artsy mellow fellow.

Christine sounds like a very interesting woman. I am a fellow single Sydney-sider (Male, 28) who's looking for a bedroom partner to enjoy my nights with, how would one contact Christine?

Oops, I almost forgot to add that I'm happy to provide any info needed, should personal details / history be needed to get the ball rolling.

(Oh, and the previous email address was incorrect, the one included with this post isn't.)

-- Ray Man.

YOu mentioned intense chemistry to guys who were less attractive---less attractive guys usually try harder.
Here's a thought---try hanging out at gaming stores (where they sell board games/dungeons and dragons)usually populated by geekier types-(not that there is anything wrong with that) get to know them ask to watch one of their games maybe-whether they are attractive or not they generally are more awkward but once they relax they will work very hard at the relationship-which seems to be something that you want to see happen.

WTF.
Are you the Tom I met like ....
2 weeks ago at good games?

TBK, I think a sweet guy will be overwhelmed by her. She'll tire of him. She's attracted to her trainer, he's probably a confident guy, it seemed like she needs more of an equal....

Update: Some very confident dude from Sydney contacted me asking to be connected to Christine. I gave her his info, we'll see if they hit it off!

"YOu mentioned intense chemistry to guys who were less attractive—less attractive guys usually try harder.
Here’s a thought—try hanging out at gaming stores (where they sell board games/dungeons and dragons)usually populated by geekier types-(not that there is anything wrong with that) get to know them ask to watch one of their games maybe-whether they are attractive or not they generally are more awkward but once they relax they will work very hard at the relationship-which seems to be something that you want to see happen."
This comment has spun me out completely, just two weeks ago I met a guy called Tom playing Dungeons and Dragons for the first time. I concluded that the guys there were all suprisingly good looking and socially well adjusted and that it would be a great place for women to meet men! I was sure that that comment was from the guy but I went out with him tonight and he assured me it was not him.

Isabella is right, I do need an equal.

At Christine and Marj:
No Sorry, I live in the states-though i think that it would be cool to meet LOL-I've also never played dungeons and dragons (i'm more of the warcraft and sci-fi type-I also play football, work on cars, and go on nature walks)

That is the dirty little secret however--most people into those types of things tend to be fairly deep thinkers, respectful, imaginative and very well adjusted--they just sometimes get passed over for various reasons. If you ladies want these things in a guy check out those locations. You might find quite a few interesting people and not all of them will be shy especially if your on their "turf".

I had a personal trainer for about six months--he told me many stories about getting hit on all the time by women. Your trainer is probably used to it--might not work out the way you want it--but don't let me stop you--just my two cents.

Go out to some bookstores--find a guy who is attractive and go right up to him with your biggest smile and ask him what he's reading. If he is a confident equal, he will overcome his shock and start up a conversation--in five minutes you will be able to tell if he is available and looking for a relationship or just into a hookup. How you proceed from there is purly up to you.
Good hunting

All I know is what I read on the page, but here's my opinion. You were once a model, so looks aren't the issue. You have great taste (music, movies, books), so I'm guessing your personality is not the issue, either. You dress like a guy, though... and that is definitely going to turn a lot of men off (not all men, but it matters to me). I don't want to date Juno. I want a woman who loves the feel of a dress on her body, who knows the location of the nearest MAC store - someone who carries a Victoria's Secret card in her wallet and embraces all things pink (like my girl). I'm not saying you should wear a dress all the time. Mix it up. "Sexy" can be tight jeans and a t-shirt with a little makeup throw in for good measure.

The staring is creepy; lose that. Floss twice a day. I don't think the trainer is a good catch (same reason you wouldn't date your stylist). You want a "friends with benefits" situation - something that's easy to find (provided you're honest). All men want sex; few, however, will believe that you ONLY want sex. You need to be clear on that point. How do you find these men? Match.com is fine. Any site is fine. The majority of guys on those sites would KILL for a "no strings" arrangement. Stop being a homebody, though. Get out. Yeah... be approachable.

You're smart and you sound like an amazing lover (open minded, adventurous). You'll find him.

Comparing me to Juno fashion wise is pretty apt there.
I do know that most guys like a girly girl, it was something my ex tried to get me into. I just can stand the frivolity of it though and just feel like I have better things to do with my time than read fashion magazines, keep up a fake tan, keep a perfect set of nails. If no sex is the price I have to pay then so be it :)
I wouldn't say I want a fuck buddy. I did that when I was younger and felt used, bored, unsatisfied. I don't want a boyfriend either. I want something between the two if it exists. Something like what Anais Nin and Henry Miller had.

I'm starting to think I wrote this whole thing a bit prematurely. I wrote this about a month ago and have been dating. No wang as of yet, I'm holding out for something but I'm unsure of what it is. Could be Joseph Gordon-Levitt.

Christine, I certainly didn't mean you should take a step down with a potential partner by suggesting a shy sweet laid back guy, I just thought that type of person would complement you nicely. However, a bold, strong man might challenge you nicely and I'm all for you exploring that avenue!

Buddha - OMG I can't believe I forgot to grab the chance to lecture Christine about flossing! Glad you had my back. :)

Christine - I'm glad you don't TALK like Juno! I think boy beaters, jeans, converse are cute. I wear that a lot, but I also wear skirts and dresses. And I don't tan or do my nails, fuck that!

the last WAINGL for a while ?!? oh, I hope it is not because of my recent criticism :/

Nina, this is the last WAINGL because I cleared my queue of them and won't post any more until after the next big relaunch of the website. TBK 3.0 is coming out late October, I'm very excited!

Hi, sorry a bit late to the reply party on this one - I only just discovered this site yesterday. :) (love it, btw!)

I have just come out of a 5 year relationship with someone who wasn't even remotely as interested in sex as I am. So now that I'm free and single again, I've been going on a bit of a cock binge and have 3 or 4 'lovers' for want of a better word. They aren't boyfriends, but they aren't just a 'fuck buddy' either. I guess definite 'Friends with benefits' ;) They are all older (mid-late 40's, I'm 32), have been married before and don't want to again and it works perfectly for me. :) (they're all in emergency services as well.. phwoar!)

I have made it perfectly clear that I am not looking for or interested in a relationship, just some hot lovin', baby! I just let them know that I am seeing other people and leave it at that. :)

So far it's worked out great for me. They're experienced, experimental, trustworthy and usually up for some dirtier stuff ;) You just have to put yourself out there, be upfront and if they do start to get attached when you don't want them to, make sure you cut them loose. Just be yourself, know what you want and look for a guy the same :)

Happy mad rooting! ;)

xx

Too late and too far. I'm in the other side of the world. But I hope someday i'll find someone just like you for an open relationship. The look, the music, the books... Shit.
You give me hope at least.