Kinky Stories & Relationship / Sex Advice

You Are The Beautiful Kind: Mollena Willams

Age:

40. My birthday is June 20th, '69. Proud Gemini....weirdly Sagittarius rising, ambivalent Virgo moon, Chinese year of the Cock. Yeah, I know.

Websites:

http://mollena.com

http://twitter.com/Mollena

http://MsSFLeather2009.com

Orientation:

Bisexual

Relationship Status:

Single

Favorite physical feature on yourself:

My Eyes.

Tattoos/piercings:

3 after-market holes in each ear one in the left nostril. I have an ankh tattoo. I have the symbol for my theater company, CrowdedFire tattooed on my left arm. There is a "USDA Prime grade" meat Inspection symbol tattoo on my right hip.  I also have my sobriety date (3*14*07) inked on my left wrist. I've got my initials branded on my right ankle as well. Oh, and the symbol for Gemini cut into my left shoulder.

Beauty tip:

Feel beautiful FIRST. Paint and potions and diets and doodads mean nothing if you feel like shit about yourself.

Pubic hairstyle:

Natural

What do your nipples look like?

Little raisins

Charity you support:

CrowdedFire

Did you have an imaginary friend growing up?

No...I was of a mind to submerge in books. They were the source of my mental games and my internal playground was populated by figures from books like The Chronicles of Narnia. I started reading when I was three, so that doorway has been open for me for almost as long as I can remember.

If you could take a class for fun right now, what would you take?

Bellydancing!

What do you want to learn/add to what you already know?

Pretty much everything. I am always "on" when it comes to absorbing information from everything going on around me. Specifically?  I wish to renew my knowledge of Spanish, I'd love to become more well-versed in history and anthropology. I want to learn to drive an 18-wheeler. I would love to spend a year living in another country. I would like to learn how to use a singletail whip.

What is one of the bravest things you have ever done?

Strangely, being me. Admitting I was an alcoholic and needed help was, for me at the time, a matter of life and death. Many said they thought it brave to ask for and receive help. I just saw it as the only way to live. I've had to be brave in my sexuality, in many ways. Coming out as being kinky paled in comparison to coming out about specific sexual kinks. It was a rude awakening to realize that my being into BDSM play that is rooted in racial oppression, for example, would have terrible and wonderful outcomes. I find bravery is rarely revealed before committing an act of bravery. I usually need my "brave" acts pointed out to me after the fact.

Special skill/talent, what are you really good at (non-sexual):

Storytelling. Performing. Being on stage, doing anything, really. I feel so alive and at home there. Listening and re-framing ideas and feelings so that others can fully embrace them. Writing. Laughing.

Special skill/talent, what are you really good at (sexual):

I am extremely reactive and receptive and orgasmic. I can orgasm from intense stimulation pretty much anywhere on my body. Within negotiated boundaries, I am extremely compliant and willing to go above and beyond to please my partner sexually. 

How old were you when you lost your virginity?

Sixteen. My first boyfriend had been planning on waiting until he was married. To me, in fact.  I told him I was sure as rabbits fucking NOT gonna do that and gave him 6 months to decide to get it on. Interestingly, anal sex didn't count as losing his virginity (Thanks, Catholic church!) so I was fucked up the ass well before losing my virginity by church standards!

The last time you had sex, and with whom:

Sunday night...with a hunky Hungarian jazz guitarist and bodybuilder.

What do you fantasize about? What's your fetish? What turns you on?

Rather brutal degrading sexual abuse. I have very strong fantasies of being well-used by several people who are simply unable to get enough of sexually and physically abusing and fucking me mercilessly. Being of service. be it practical or sexual, being useful, pleasing, belonging to someone....these are all extremely erotic for me. 

That and a specific type of boot. You can read about what boot that is and why I feel so strongly about them in this story.

Rough and ready raging lust turns me on. Bruises and bites and blows that feel like terrible caresses.

What was one of the hottest moments of your life?

Being rather roughly taken by a near stranger. It was the first indication I had that I might be somewhat submissive, at least sexually, and it changed my life. I have some of the story here. and more of it here.

What type of person are you into?

Someone who is dominant without being domineering and overbearing, who is grounded and sane with a great sense of humor, cleverness, intelligence, vigorously dominant with a formidable sexual appetite. And most importantly, we have to both be very much into one another and desirous of the same style of relationship.

Any regrets?

Years ago, I ended a relationship badly because I was too chickenshit to end it with integrity. I haven't been able to find my ex to tell her I regret my treatment of her and to take responsibility for my passive-aggressive behaviours.

Why do you think I chose you for YATBK?

I guess because The lovely and generous Julian Wolf nominated me?   Or perhaps you've been curious, all this time, about how I would describe my nipples!