By Kendra Holliday | May 18, 2012 at 4:32 pm
Ed Note: The following is a guest post by Brandy.
Many couples who have been together for a long time have a problem that is difficult to admit to, let alone set about fixing: their sex lives become stale after a while. In some ways, this is perfectly normal. There are plenty of ways of avoiding the problem, but the reality is that lots of couples stop trying new things at a certain point, and not long after that they lose some level of interest in each other.
Of course, the important question becomes this: how do you reinvigorate a sex life that has lost some of its excitement? There are a number of things you can do to address this sort of issue, and fortunately most of them are quite simple. But here are a few ideas that often help couples who are struggling sexually.
• Communicate – It seems like the simplest thing you could possibly say to people who have been in a relationship, but at the same time it is something that many people need to remind themselves of. It’s okay to be open and honest with your sexual partner, and it is a simple fact that the only way to help your partner to better understand your needs and desires is to explain them.
• Try new things – Communication is important, but it isn’t enough on its own. You also need to be ready and willing to try new things in bed. This might mean simply doing something different for your partner, or it may even mean going a bit further, perhaps looking into sex toys and accessories some place like adameve.com. If you have never tried anything like this before, it may seem like a bit of a strange step to take – but at the same time, there are plenty of couples out there who would encourage you to try it!
• Have fun – Many people, especially struggling couples, find that sex becomes a bit too serious. Granted, there are times and moods for this, but in general, sex is supposed to be enjoyed by both people. Obviously, it is important to be passionate and romantic in your sexual relations with your partner, but if you try to also maintain the idea that what you are doing is fun, then you are likely to notice a reinvigorated sex life. Once you re-establish a fun attitude, you will likely find that you are more confident with your communication and experimentation as well!