You Will Get Laid: An Interview with Sallie the Sexual Psychic

You've heard of psychics, but have you heard of sex-positive psychics? Meet Sallie, a woman who offers sexual psychic readings.

Q. What is a sex-positive psychic?

A. A sex-positive psychic is comfortable hearing about a caller’s sex life, including fetishes, affairs, “forbidden desires” and more. Callers can talk with me about explicit details of what is not working with their partners.

For example, a caller might ask if their partner would agree to anal, or whether their ex ever thinks of the hot sex they used to have. Most people would hesitate to be so open with a regular psychic.

I am good at reading the feelings, sensations and opinions of anyone with whom you have a connection. So my answer to the anal question might range from “no way in hell, dream on” to “she is more comfortable with it than you think, here’s how you can best approach her about it” to “hell, yes, what have you been waiting for!” (Well, okay, I haven’t had the latter answer come to me yet, but anything is possible.)

A sex-positive psychic is comfortable in their own body and is therefore comfortable talking with people about theirs. A sexual psychic specializes in helping callers with any aspect of their sex lives. And this sex psychic connects spirituality with sexuality – these readings are only one way to do that.

Kendra, I'd like to quote you: “It's interesting to note that most of my clients divulge things to me in our first session that they haven't revealed to the real psychologist they've been meeting with for months. It's important to address the deep, dark sexual secrets, because they influence everything on the surface - it's all connected.” Ditto.

Q. How did you discover your gift?

A. Gradually. I felt a strong connection to god as a child, both during the many hours I spent wandering forests, ravines and creeks, and also during the few years I attended a mainstream church. One summer I actually went door to door with church elders proselytizing people about Jesus. I wanted to be a missionary and a writer.

Life had other plans.

In my late 20s I was driving through Maine with a long-time lover when I first realized I had picked up his thought. After that I started testing it. During a conversation with him, if I had a thought that did not feel like mine, I waited. Inevitably, he would then say the same thing. That was the beginning of learning to discern what was coming from me from what belonged to others.

I believe that my previous inability to discern, including my delayed awareness of what it means to be an empath, caused me to suffer many unnecessary emotions and social awkwardness from childhood through my early ‘30s.

Not long after that Maine trip I started studying Taoist meditation and chi kung. For several years I learned how to circulate the life force or energy – a.k.a. “chi” – through my body. I was amazed that it was far more than simple visualization because I could feel the energy pass through my body’s “orbits.”

And I must say, the Taoist Tantra practic is possibly unsurpassed for juicing you up, keeping it going a long time, and then focusing all that chi into an orgasm. (Or you can choose to withhold orgasm and store the chi in your belly.)

Once I learned to still my mind – which is NOT a primary Taoist teaching but instead a natural result of the energy meditation – then my ability to quickly connect with Spirit increased. And because Taoist meditation is a body-based spiritual practice, I began to tune in to my empath abilities, too.

The empath piece is the most difficult to recover from after a reading (or during a visit to the city, etc). When I do a psychic reading I often feel sensations in my body that mirror those of the caller or the person about whom the caller is asking. I might “catch” a headache. Or feel a deep grief in my heart chakra. Or be riled up by a full-body anxiety. I am usually able, with Spirit’s help when I ask for clarification, to discern who “owns” those feelings.

And from there, more information comes, in response to the caller’s questions.

Q. There are thousands of people out there who claim to be psychics, how is someone supposed to know who is for real and who is phony?

A. If the psychic asks you a lot of questions, hang up. Fake psychics will ask you leading questions and then give you common-sense advice. Real psychics also do the same if their primary motive is to keep you on the phone and drive up your bill. Most of the psychic services who hire or contract with psychics offer incentives for keeping callers on the phone as long as possible.

While I also make more money on long calls, I keep people on the phone only so long as they have questions and Spirit has answers. My average call is just 15 minutes.

That said, it’s best to work with the psychic by giving them what they need to get a good reading – i.e. to make a spiritual, energetic, empathic, psychic, clairvoyant etc. connection. The term “psychic” encompasses many different abilities. I am primarily an empath, secondarily a clairvoyant and clairsentient. Asking the psychic “What should I know?” is too vague. Come to the psychic reading with specific questions – but do not provide any context or background.

Q. Out of the thousands of psychics, you're the only sexual psychic I know. What a great niche! Tell me about how you got into that.

A. In my 20's I realized that my life mission had something to do with sexuality, healing sexual wounds, coming into one's body, owning one's sexual energy, balancing the energies of sex and love, and helping others with the same. My inquiries into sex and sexuality have been not just personal but academic, sociological, political and now professional.

In late 2008 I looked around for ways I could make a living from home without having to travel. I considered both phone sex and psychic readings. The phone sex was a relatively easy choice since I am open-minded about sexuality, political about sexual freedom, and experienced in hot sex.

For many years I’d had various experiences with “other ways of knowing” in addition to the telepathy I described earlier. I did not know, however, if I could call on those abilities on demand. So every Wednesday for several weeks I took a class on clairvoyance. At the end, I asked the teacher if she thought I was ready to give psychic readings. “Absolutely,” she replied.

So I signed up with a mainstream psychic readings site and started giving psychic readings. At the same time I signed up with the leading phone sex website Niteflirt, created a couple characters and started doing phone sex.

It didn’t take me very long to realize I could combine the two. The Sexual Psychic was born on Niteflirt. I eventually created my own website.

Q. Do you have male and female clients?

A. Mostly male, some female. I would enjoy having more women ask me about how to improve their sex life, how to teach their partner how to better pleasure them and other woman-centered concerns.

Q. You offer an unusual service, do your clients "get it"?

A. Yes. They do not come to Niteflirt thinking they want a sex psychic. But when they see my listing, they realize this is something they’ve been looking for without really knowing it. Even the skeptics are usually open-minded and ask genuine questions – which is the secret to a good reading.

By the way, I burned out on phone sex after about a year, so as the Sexual Psychic I now offer only sex psychic readings.

I am happy to say that the vast majority of my callers are gentlemen – both now and when I was offering phone sex. And those who visit my independent site see that I have an sexual psychic honor code for sex psychic readings .

Q. Where do you get your insight?

A. I don’t know. I can’t explain how I get the information, or where it comes from. “Spirit” is the best source I can name. I am confident that it comes from the Light, that is, from a divine source that has the caller’s best interests in mind. I open every sex psychic reading with a statement of positive intent, asking that everything serves the caller’s highest and best interests.

Q. Do you have an anonymous anecdote you can share?

A. Well, I can say that many men ask if their partner is cheating on them. The first thing I say is, “I tell you what I get. Do you REALLY want to know the answer?” Some psychics won’t tell you bad news, thinking their job is to make you feel better. I think my job is to pass on information from Spirit. I trust that if the info or feeling or clairvoyant flash comes, the caller is meant to know about it.

I have one caller who is obsessed with a woman he shouldn’t be. He kept asking for information about her past sex life. That’s a tough question for me, because ethically I believe in “psychic privacy” and because I don’t think a woman’s sexual past should be judged. So I walk a tight line with that not infrequent question. I always follow my gut about even asking; this time I posed the question to Spirit. Spirit gave a solid “none of your business” reply to his inquiry. Clairvoyantly, I saw an unscalable wall.

He kept asking. And asking – over the course of many days. He loves his hot wife but couldn’t consistently keep his mind off the other woman. When I repeatedly refused to try again, he started focusing more frequently on his wife. He realized that he should be spending his time making his wife feel like the goddess she is, instead of diverting energy to this other woman. The readings had highlighted the negative qualities of the other woman, and amplified the strength of his connection with his wife.

It might well have gone the other way. Spirit could have revealed that the wife had a dark side working against him, while the other woman was the one he was meant to be with. I do not judge anyone for affairs, fetishes etc. I do not come to the readings with morality. I do come to the readings with ethics.

Q. Do you have any advice for people looking for love?

A. Don’t give up self. Every step along the way to finding love, when you face a decision, ask yourself if you would be giving up self if you were to do this, or instead building or preserving self. What’s that mean?

If you really don’t want to do “that thing” with a partner, but do it anyway, you give up self. If you go against your better judgment to help/impress/date someone, you give up self. Only you can determine what crosses the line from giving generously to giving so much you lose something important. You are the judge of where compromising grumpily is really compromising but holding a grudge.

That’s become my bellwether for my actions and those of others. Did the woman in the latest scandal happily choose to have that threesome, or did her partners pressure her in to it? That is the significant distinction, not whether having sex with multiple partners makes you a “bad mother” or “slut” or “immoral teacher” etc. I’d like us to teach our children about this early, because I wish I had this mind frame when I was giving up massive amounts of sexual self as a teenager.

I could write a book on that topic as applied to sexuality, but others already have – it is based on Dr. George Murray’s Family Systems Theory, which in turned influenced David Snarch who authored The Sexual Crucible and other books.

Q. How can people get in touch with you?

A. Visit my website. Email me at Sallie@TheSexualPsychic.com. I can call you direct, if you prefer not to go through Niteflirt. The best way to call me on Niteflirt is by using the call buttons on my website – they will connect you directly to my listing. But if all you have is your phone, and you want to talk right away, call me on Niteflirt at 1-800-863-5478 ext: 03436236 or just click here to call me on Niteflirt.