By Kendra Holliday | February 1, 2017
You know how they talk about baggage, being in the closet, etc.?
Everyone has baggage – daddy issues, mommy issues, family pain, abandonment issues, trust issues, inexperienced issues, break up trauma, secrets, shame, guilt, neglect, abuse, loss, betrayal, injury, fear, rejection…
I like to pretend our head is an attic, and our brain is an old fashioned trunk, crammed full of stuff we’ve collected from our travels.
Space is really tight, and the stuff is jammed in there.
So, I propose this exercise to my clients.
Find the key that opens the trunk.
Open that trunk up.
Now, take ALL the stuff out of it – toss it around the room.
Examine each article – is it a piece of clothing? Is it a toy? Is it wrinkled? Is it moldy? Does it still fit? Do you want to keep it?
Address and assess each item. Acknowledge why it’s in your trunk, and decide if it’s something you want to hang on to.
If you want to keep it – if it’s infused with good memories or lessons to be learned, fold it neatly and place it back in the trunk.
If it’s something you’d like to get rid of – if it no longer serves you and is weighing you down, decide if you want to recycle it, trash it, or even burn it.
By the time you’re finished, your trunk should be lighter and better organized. This will be helpful as you continue your journey.
This metaphor and symbolism comes in handy for me often – for instance, my molestation by an older brother is an ugly, stained nightie I’ve thrown away many times, but it keeps finding its way back into my trunk – every time he contacts me or my mom brings it up.
One of these days, I’ll FINALLY be rid of that nightie and have closure.
And someday, the entire trunk will be gone altogether. If you know what I mean.
So take care of your trunk while you still have the chance! Don’t let it weigh you down as you continue on your journey and encounter other people.
You are just passing through – make it easier on yourself, and travel lightly.