By Kendra Holliday | March 28, 2015
“We plan, god laughs.” – Yiddish proverb
When you make plans and a wrench is thrown in them, it’s usually easy enough to improvise, adapt, and overcome.
I’ve had so many wrenches thrown at me this month, I’m black and blue and barely standing, much less blogging. But whatever doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, right?
Well, how much can you take before you finally break?
There’s a quote I often refer to when the going gets rough: “I can’t go on, I go on.”
But you know what? Nothing I’ve experienced now, or ever before, compares to what my kinky local friends Jade, Warren, and Adam are going through right now. It’s a true life and death drama, and it is fucked up and cruel. I am sick over it. It’s a fucking nightmare.
Drama: Any situation or series of events having vivid, emotional, conflicting, or striking interest or results.
You can read a summary of their dire situation here.
But you can’t read their story at Kink and Poly anymore. The site, once deemed the Best Sex Blog in St. Louis, has been taken down. I’ve referred SO many people to Jade’s incredible website over the years.
Here are pics of me with Warren, and with Jade:
I’ve learned SO much from them. I’ve had amazing adventures with them. They are such fabulous, creative people. They live a rich and beautiful life. They’ve traveled the world and made dreams come true. They’ve blown my mind with their ambitious endeavors. They have gone where most of us will never go. They are the space explorers of BDSM, polyamory and kink.
They have been to my play parties. They won’t be coming to the next one.
W was part of my epic gang bang. We’ve had many fun times with them, including this evening, when W strung me up and I could barely handle it. W is one of the most hardcore, true Dominants I have ever known. He is FOR REAL. He possesses Cowboy Ethics. He has shared many a fine bourbon with Matthew.
And Jade is his dear little high heeled submissive. Jade has endured so much pain the past few years – nipple torture, caning, foot whipping, extreme bondage – but it was all gloriously consensual. What she and her other partner Adam are going through right now is excruciating and cruel punishment.
Jade and W took up with each other around the same time Matthew and I did. I can’t imagine My Man being taken from me, and not just in death, but in an insane limbo – being denied access to him while he is seriously ill, not being allowed to help him recover. Not knowing what condition he’s in – where he is, or whether he is even alive.
My custody battle a few years ago doesn’t compare to this – I was at risk of losing my daughter because of my sexuality, but it wasn’t a matter of life and death.
This is absolutely a sexual civil rights issue. I’m not sure how much longer the fundraiser will be up, but you can still donate as of right now. Thank you to the folks at Shameless Grounds for rallying the sex-positive troops. Jade and her family has given so much to us over the years. I still can’t believe this is happening.
I hope W knows how much he is loved. I know Jade and Adam are feeling the love.
And then there is so much pain and anguish.
Life teaches us lessons, and I can’t figure out what this one is trying to convey.
If you are kinky or poly, could this happen to you? Are your loved ones protected?
Are your family members on board with your lifestyle? Why or why not?
Replace the fear with love. Let Love Conquer All – forever, and always.