My Teen Daughter is Repulsed by Cocks

By Kendra Holliday | June 15, 2014 at 8:28 pm

Sigh. Stupid dick pics

Sigh. Stupid dick pics

A while back I shared my stance on unsolicited cock shots.

I really don’t like them.

Some women don’t mind them. Some women even welcome them. In fact, you can feel free to send your cock shots to this website for review.

I’d prefer that over you sending them to my 13-year-old daughter.

Seriously, you guys are ruining dicks for her.

She’s been surfing the internet for almost four years now, and four times she has received unsolicited cock shots.

Each time, it’s like a disgusting slap in the face for her, and each time, she feels more repulsed by men and their junk.

The unsolicited cock shots have occurred to her in chat rooms, where she identified as a female and had a picture of a guinea pig as her avatar.

I’m not sure why guys would think the woman behind a picture of a guinea pig would be a lasciviously legal hottie who will uncontrollably masturbate to their member.

Fuzzy dick monster

Fuzzy dick monster

It’s better to err on the side of caution and assume the person is a child who is just trying to be social and connect with like-minded people.

And if I’m a sex blogger goddess pervert freak who doesn’t like random cock shots, how do you think a young and inexperienced virgin feels about them?

She has finally figured out that chat rooms are dangerous places rife with dick land mines, so she has stopped visiting them.

I hope she hasn’t been turned off of penises forever. I hope she learns that there are good, loving penises out there.

I sure have come a long way – when I was a stripper at 19, I thought men were the enemy. They were creepy and grabby and opportunistic. Since then, I have learned about taking ownership of my sexuality and choose to spend time with respectful people.

So, yeah, if you are sharing your cock shot with women in the hopes that it will get them hot and make them want to suck it, you may actually be doing the opposite.

For instance, there’s this guy on twitter who just started following me. Click here to see his profile pic/cock shot. Does that look appealing to you? It looks like a greasy baby vulture. Or maybe a segment of a small intestine.

Someone suggested that if you get a cock shot, you should fire a cock shot back. It’s only fair that if they assume you want to see their mystery meat, it’s what they are into as well, right??

I’ll leave you with this lovely little ditty by a performer right here in St. Louis.

Men, listen up! Your future sex partners will thank you.

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fuzzilla 2014-06-16 09:16:19

Wow, that pic you linked to really does look like a segment of small intestine…

This is why a guy looking to take communication off a dating site and into your private e-mail/phone number is immediately suspect (I assume he wants to send dick pics that the dating site will block).

Even if a guy isn’t much of a standup guy, you’d think he’d want to appeal to women in order to get sex/their attention. Some guys just really never stop to consider a woman’s point of view or that they’re actually, like, human beings and stuff…

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    fuzzilla 2014-06-16 09:50:46

    I mean, it’s suspect if they want your private deets immediately after you’ve barely said hello. If you’ve been chatting for a bit and are planning to meet it makes sense.

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Alizarin Rose 2014-06-16 11:42:16

That dic pic was GROSS. To be fair though, I have requested them, and even had a guy send me a video of himself masturbating to a picture of my face, but we were perving together. Perhaps wait for a dic pic request?

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Amy C 2014-06-16 12:23:41

Hahaha! Great response!

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Shelley 2014-06-17 05:28:07

Hold on. Let me fix your own statement for you so you can understand how we understand you better.
“I can understand you not liking dick pics sent to your teenage daughter, but if you don’t like seeing them, you shouldn’t ever have one. Nor should I, a man, ever be told the truth about how women see our genitals when we freely give out pictures of them constantly. Because my fragile ego of masculinity can’t handle the truth.”

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Jem 2014-06-17 09:38:16

My daughter – sixteen now, fourteen then – was online with a guy who knew how old she was and suddenly started sending pictures of his erection and telling her he wanted her to suck it, followed up with links to hardcore porn sites showing oral sex videos. He was a stranger, and it shocked her into telling me about it. I reported it and he was seventeen, but it turned out all her friends have had the same, often from middleaged men. They see it as something that just happens if you’re a teenage girl online.

I don’t think it traumatised her permanently. It did definitely ‘put her off’.

We can be far too relaxed about this. Yes, a typical fourteen year old has been exposed to sex scenes, internet porn, possibly some real life experience … but early sexual encounters are incredibly formative. More than we often remember, as adults. I know that a lot of my likes and dislikes can be traced back to my teens. Sending pictures like this is non-consensual, it’s aggressive. Hate to use a pun, but it’s dickish.

It clearly happens, it’s something parents can’t police. I think the only possible thing we can do is educate the men, tell them that leaving aside the fact that it’s illegal, it’s also counterproductive. The girls don’t think it’s sexy, they think it’s gross.

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Jem 2014-06-17 09:53:02

I’m the same age as Kendra. We didn’t have chatrooms when I was growing up. If we did, and there were older men telling me I sounded smart, and why not use the camera on my phone to send a picture … hey, you’re beautiful, hey, why not take one in your bra, there’s a picture on your Instagram where you’re in a bikini and it wouldn’t show any more than that … I think I’d have done it. It would have made me feel powerful and valuable and beautiful.

And that’s because *fourteen year old girls can do some fucking stupid things*. Again, we really need to let some light into this, tell people it’s happening and it’s predatory.

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Kate 2014-06-17 18:20:51

Kate 2014-06-17 18:26:29

Meaning more specifically, Kendra, that I think the post I shared above specifically answers your question: “I’m not sure why guys would think the woman behind a picture of a guinea pig would be a lasciviously legal hottie who will uncontrollably masturbate to their member.” I hope you and your daughter (and others of us baffled by this continuing phenomenon) will find it helpful!

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    Kendra Holliday 2014-06-17 18:44:25

    This is excellent!!! thank you! will share!

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      jem 2014-06-18 06:10:57

      That article is good. It gets across that it’s a negotiation, and so sending a cockshot is a tactic. I think that there’s an additional way of looking at this: think of it as a ‘high bid’ in an ongoing negotiation.

      The young man who sent my daughter that picture wanted to coax her into sending more and more photos. Start with just a regular picture of her, end with … well, wherever it ends.

      She sent him a picture, then a picture where she was holding an unbuttoned shirt closed. And that second one was really tame compared with what he sent her, still PG rated, but he’d got a girl to show him a little skin. Even getting that far gives him a reward.

      It’s like bidding. Next, shirt open so he sees her bra, next the shirt comes off, next the bra comes off – ha ha, you turned around so it’s your bare back … now turn around.

      The quid pro quo here would be a close up photo of her touching herself. And that’s where he’s set the bidding. My daughter was thinking about sending a photo in her bra ‘next’, when her alarm bells rang. She was doing what he wanted, which was framing it as a series of stages. If he’d come out at the start and said ‘show me a picture of you in your bra’ she’d have rejected him. But if he’s sent her a cockshot, then a bra picture seems almost innocent compared to that. Everything does. It almost seems unfair to send him just a bra photo.

      At some point, most women are going to stop themselves. But he wins at every stage until they do. He’s not going to complain if he ‘only’ gets a topless shot, is he?

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Ebony Body Works of St. Louis 2014-06-18 06:56:52

I hate getting unsolicited dick pics from strangers. It speaks volumes about the dudes sending them. No Class!

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Shannon 2014-06-18 18:23:43

That forest over there…I think it has trees in it.

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AlanK 2014-06-18 22:38:39

Thanks a lot for the picture. My girlfriend looked over my shoulder as I was reading the article and freaked out. There will be no nookie in the immediate future. Bah.

Good article though.

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Dan 2014-06-19 20:22:17

You’re so right Kendra. If guys want to be known or want just to get laid, so much better to send poetry. Now that works. But isn’t a man’s cock poetry? No, your cock, guys, is only poetry once you know a woman.

I dated a lesbian briefly, after 2hrs of phone sex and a lunch date, she said in my car as I dropped her safely to her car, that she was “hungry for cock” and wanted to try coming back to the “other side”, the Het side. I told her, “My dear, I don’t have a cock. I have MY cock.” I loved her honesty but she never got in my pants. And I never called her back.

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    Kendra Holliday 2014-06-19 22:49:42

    I have to say, I really love this comment. Thank you.

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      Jem 2014-06-20 08:42:51

      “I don’t have a cock. I have MY cock”

      The ‘cockshots’ guys don’t get that. It’s a game where they get to see photos of girls, it’s not about getting to know those girls. But it’s a broader problem – we talk about sexual techniques and moves and positions and scenarios, but it’s always about the individuals. The whole point is that it’s personal.

      I’m sure some of the appeal of Kendra’s gangbang was that it was a gangbang. No, it was not some lasting, nurtured relationship, but it wasn’t just a process, either. It worked because the people involved made it work. Sex doesn’t need love or commitment or to follow instructions. It does need communication.

      I don’t think cockshots are ‘sexual’. It’s more of a power thing. It’s about getting girls to do stuff. There is a sexual component, obviously, in receiving a topless photo. Mainly I think it’s more like daring someone to walk along a dangerous edge or to go into a shop and steal something.

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C Haines 2014-06-26 15:29:41

You have a self-centered idea of what a sex consultant should be doing for you. BTW, she’s very credible to me.

Really, if there’s one way women seem to be different from men, it’s in their reaction to nudity. It’s common for them to be turned on by watching sex acts done in the nude, but it’s the rare female who’s turned on by nudity alone. By giving them a “close up” that’s not going to turn them on no matter how close or magnified, you’re pushing completely the wrong button. It’s not a matter of liberating their narrow thinking about cock shots, either, nor offending a few hundred until you find the one that gets turned on by what you insist is their turn-on. Pushy is not a turn-on for women either.

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