By Kendra Holliday | July 20, 2014
So this sex surrogate work I do is hugely important, and I really and truly love it.
When I am engaged with someone and riding the waves of passion, I feel it in my core – in my heart and in my cunt – even if I am only giving the pleasure. I feed off the energy, it’s circular and ALIVE. It’s simultaneously relaxing and energizing.
I am honored to share intimacy with good people. I love mentoring and teaching others about sexuality and themselves.
I spend time with SO many interesting folks. They’re so diverse, but they are all keenly interested in a common goal: healthy human connection.
From the Middle Eastern Muslim man whose arranged marriage failed, to the man with a serious muscle disease who was told he would die by the age of 20, to the Catholic man who puked the first time he had sex, to the 44-year-old man who hasn’t had sex yet, to the man who was molested by a family member and can’t orgasm when other people are present, to the Asperger’s man who is clueless about courtship and body language…the list goes on and on.
After a recent sweet cock worship session, a client reported back to me:
“I felt giddy and somewhat euphoric and more energetic than usual the rest of the day — almost to the point of downplaying it so that others wouldn’t notice anything different about me today. And it’s more than I can justify on the basis of a conscious memory of the fun I had. It’s more like I had to stop and think about why I was feeling this way. It’s almost like I’m feeling the effect of pheromones, or a spike in oxytocin from all the touching, or a spike in testosterone resulting from the whole thing — maybe arousal combined with touching — it’s like I’ve been mildly drugged, definitely enough to be noticeable.”
Look at all the articles and studies out there about how healing human touch is, not just for premature babies, but for humans of all ages.
We need to touch each other more often.
My friend has a cuddle club that meets once a week. They all get together and talk about science or watch a television show in a cuddly, consensual fashion.
There are many types of touch – healing, nurturing, soothing, caring, sensual, erotic, intense – do you know the difference?
The other day I was touching an inexperienced man with erotic intent – trailing my fingers gently all over his body, tuned into his male energy, slowly heading toward his erogenous zones. He was used to massage and other therapies, but this felt different to him. He said my caresses made him tingle all over and flush with pleasure. So nice that the feeling can linger, and carry over into other parts of our lives.