The #1 Way to Please Your Man: How to Give an Extraordinary Blowjob

By Kendra Holliday | August 26, 2014 at 5:15 am

I blow, therefore I am Goddess.

Oral sex is the #1 way to send your man into ecstasy. It feels incredible and few men can resist the opportunity for their cock to be worshipped and loved. Best of all, his deep gratitude is bound to pay off considerably later on when he eagerly returns the favor. Here is a breakdown on how to give a great blowjob, TBK style.

Great conversation topic

Before you put your mouth to good use, ask him what he likes so you know what to lay on thick and what to avoid. Does he like his balls licked? Teeth? Lots of suction? Strong head stimulation? Slow or fast? You can have this conversation over dinner or while sitting on the couch watching TV, but be prepared to stop what you are doing so you can practice. OR employ tech foreplay and do it over IM or text during the day so you can prime his pump for when you see each other that evening.

Tease him

Take the tease trail. For example, start by kissing your most fortunate test subject, then slowly head south, kissing and licking his nipples, chest, belly, thighs, balls, shaft, then finally make your way to his cock head.

Once you’re there, open your damn mouth. I keep hearing from both men and women about these women with small mouths who can’t get the job done. Despite what you might think, my mouth isn’t that big, and I can stuff something substantial in it. Though I can’t fit a soda can in it like I saw one woman do. That’s impressive. If you have TMJ/jaw issues, do the best you can and supplement with edible lube/hands.

Like it, love it

I also hear about women who get tired and can’t finish. I think that’s because they’re not doing it right, and they really do consider it a job, not a pleasure. You need to adopt the mindset that you want to devour the cock, absorb the cock, worship the cock. Focus on it, don’t think about what you need to get done tomorrow. Get wet just from sucking it, hearing his moans, feeling his hand in your hair, knowing that you are giving him intense pleasure and attention.

Get a grip on the situation

Take off your rings. Try a gentle, soothing touch at first. Start slow, sensual and light. Then, pay attention to his body language and vocalization.  Experiment with pressure, rhythm, speed. Don’t worry if he seems to like a firm grip – his cock is used to being manhandled. Make sure your strokes are long enough – catch the base of his head as you work your fist up and down, while focusing your mouth on the head, licking, sucking, fucking it with your mouth. Make sure the entire area is nice and lubricated with your loving saliva.Use the other hand to play with his nipples, ass, or yourself.

Do party tricks

Ball licking, pleading eye contact, rimming, deepthroating, these are all good techniques to employ, but the most important thing to keep in mind if your goal is to make him explode is to maintain a consistent, steady rhythm. Of course you should mix it up and delight all his carnal senses until you’re ready for the home stretch.

No ick factor here

Go ahead and make those animalistic noises – gagging, moaning, slurping. And let the drool flow, it makes good lube. A lot of men get turned on by smeared lipstick and eye makeup. Save your prim and proper manners for a fancy restaurant – when dining on tubesteak, it’s perfectly acceptable to get sloppy.

Jack (the) pot!

Ooh you made him cum! Now don’t be cum shy, it’s part of the fun to play with it. Let it fly and enjoy the show, or dribble it out of your mouth. Let him have a taste. (One time I had a guy tell me, “Cum is for the ladies.” He talked himself out of a blowjob.) When he cums, give him a break, stop the stimulating, but don’t retreat – stay with him, savor the afterglow. When you do back off, do it slowly and gently. Oh and swallowing is up to you. As for me, I only swallow the ones I love.

Yeah baby, you’re a goddess. Repeat as necessary. It’s pretty safe to say that you can’t give too many blowjobs, and they never get old.

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Sonora 2011-06-03 20:29:02

Puts “Tickle His Pickle” to shame :wink:

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Kendra 2011-06-09 13:26:26

A female reader shared this comment anonymously; I’m passing it on:

“I believe that in order to be good at giving blow jobs, you truly have to enjoy doing it. Otherwise, you are just going through the motions, and you tend to hurry through to the end instead of enjoying the journey.

Blow jobs are NOT about the climax . . . they are about sharing intimacy and discovering your partner and GIVING concentrated pleasure. If you are with the right person, trust me, it will be returned ten-fold.

And there is also something about “servicing” a man while still pretty much controlling him . . . interesting dichotomy.”

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Buddha 2011-06-11 12:35:33

Should be mandatory reading for all women. As for the comment, I agree that it’s best if she’s REALLY into it and not just going through the motions. To know that she’s absolutely ADDICTED to cock is a huge turn-on. Same goes for eating pussy. It’s not a paint-by-numbers thing.

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rhwgoddess 2011-06-11 13:35:09

I so love giving my men a blowjob. It is one of my favorite things to do!!! Dont forget the ‘icecream lick’!!!

Reading this today, I cant wait till I can do it again!
:grin:

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    Hypocrite 2011-06-14 09:02:10

    While she is the epitome of mainstream porn, whenever I watch a video of Jenna Jameson do her version of the ice cream lick, I melt.

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Buggy 2011-06-11 15:08:11

But what do you do when they aren’t that sensitive to touch? Like, when they don’t derive much pleasure from it? That can be a major downer =(

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    Steph 2011-06-11 15:50:32

    Leather-dicks (guys who aren’t very sensitive) can be the MOST fun for you, cuz those dicks you can manhandle to your delight. Bend ‘em backwards. Throttle him hard with your lubed hands, even doing it so the dick goes sideways. Run your teeth up and down that leather thing and y’know that spot just underneath the head, that little purple d-spot? Push on that as hard as you want with your tongue. Put the dick on his stomach and grind there with your chin back and forth.

    The key is like Kendra said – ask him what he likes. If he doesn’t answer, it’s time to play ‘make him moan’ by doing whatever the fuck makes YOU happy to do. When he moans, do it harder and faster. When he says ‘ow!’ move on (no need to say ‘sorry,’ just go back to the moan-motion).

    And remember, you’re not just blowing his dick, your blowing his mind. Before you go down there, tell him what you’re going to do – “I’m going to lick you like a popsicle then let you fuck me like a puppy” said as feminine or rough as you want. Tell him what to do to YOU while you’re down south “I’m going to kiss your whole shaft up and down and when I take you in my mouth I want you to pull my hair and fuck my throat” or whatever floats YOUR boat.

    He’ll be playing along with you in no time, and be thrilled for it. There are really no rules by blowjob #3, so you get to take control, even saying shit like “Is daddy ready to cum?” or whatever is within your mutual range of respect.

    And really, ladies? As a middle-aged modern dudeman? We could give a care if you swallow or not. Spitting is fine. Sloshing it out of your mouth on our dicks while we cum is fine. We don’t care. Know why? We just got a blowjob!!!! Wheeeeee!!!

    Thanks much, btw!

    Final tip? If you want a guy to go down on you and he doesn’t and you’ve blown him plenty, it’s time to take control get us on our backs, and well before we cum hop on our face and tell us it’s your turn. We know we’ll get ours once you get yours and we’ll shyly love your assertiveness.

    PS–Spank us.

    Love you blowjob women!

    xxoo

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      Buggy 2011-06-11 23:13:55

      I’m so silly sometimes… I never even really think about that o_O

      Though he’s insensitive to the point that the head doesn’t really have any feeling whatsoever, and I doubt that what remains of his glans has any either (he’s cut).

      But I thank you so much for your reply! :heart: :heart:

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Melanie Robinson 2011-06-14 12:01:57

I wrote out my method for giving blow jobs in my blog here;
http://www.melanieofsydney.com/serendipity/entry154.html

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    Kayle 2011-06-24 10:47:09

    :embarrassed:
    omg, yes, thank you for the *advanced* helpful tips. yumyumyum;)

    and about the rule #1 ENJOY IT thing: I have always given great blowjobs according to the guys. because of #1!!!
    i think having the courage to fulfill your own fantasies with another person is most of what makes you “good”. :heart:

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    Kendra 2011-12-19 06:50:15

    That was a sexy read, Melanie!

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blondie 2011-06-27 20:39:48

I suck his cock the way I would want my cock sucked, if I had one. This approach seems to go over pretty well. AND don’t quit cause he came, keeping his cock in your mouth, feeling the throbbing subside, sucking gently till he’s spent….yum. TBK’s advice and encouragement to get messy and make noise is one of the most liberating comments I’ve ever found.

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    Tommy 2014-09-18 11:15:42

    Good job keep him happy he will be yours for ever… That is the way us guys are, I was married to a dead beet for 23 years lost the best years of my life… Keep up the good work… Tommy

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Barry 2011-12-25 23:17:02

Sucking cocks is totally my most favorite thing to do. I particularly love performing deep throat. That probably makes me a cock-whore, but I don’t care. I love sucking cocks!

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barryboi 2011-12-26 22:11:54

The advice about loving to give a blowjob is so important. It is nearly impossible to maintain passion without thoroughly enjoying the process. I’ve been accused of being a “cock-a-holic” because I always completely enjoy the process. I say you have to savor the guy like it was the best thing you’ve had in your mouth for a very long time.

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swsilvercple 2012-02-10 19:24:30

I absolutely loooovvvveee giving my husband head. I confess, I am a cock a holic! My husband loooovvees to receive head as well. For me, it’s empowering to have that control over him. I can go as fast or slow as I want. I can bring him the brink of cumming, then back off to only do it again. When he cums.. I make sure to lick every drop of cum up! :grin:

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Heather 2012-06-09 21:35:14

Ok I want to hear my man mone but he just lays there no reaction to what I am doing and that Bugs me and then I get bored with it what do I do

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Dangelo 2013-12-23 12:02:54

I noticed as being a gay dude that sometimes my man didnt want to cumm but I learned dat sometines the littlest things work to make him cumm it could be just a toych or a lick but mine was when I passed the tip of mi tounge on the tip of his dick lol ( once I did it to fast and his tip was extra sensative and it hit my eye but lol we had funn )

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fuzzilla 2014-04-06 12:45:44

The last guy I dated told me I gave the best blow jobs ever, that I was a rare find, I could go sooooo deep, etc. After a while he was like, “Please no blow jobs, I need to heal.” Um, what? “Teeth marks.” He showed me.

I’ve never had that complaint before. I’m guessing it was a size thing? (He was quite well-endowed).

They sell some kind of mouth guard thing to prevent that very issue, but he just thought it was creepy and weird, and we didn’t last too much longer together anyway…

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    fuzzilla 2014-04-06 12:48:28

    **we didn’t last too much longer together anyway…**

    I mean, not just for that reason, but it didn’t help.

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Sandy 2014-04-08 11:23:22

That might be the classiest BJ picture I’ve ever seen. The dark colors, the angle, the setting, the postures. Subtle yet unmistakable. Bare, yet clothed. Kudos!

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Dan 2014-04-09 09:26:57

“get messy and make noise” is good advice for all lovemaking and hot sex, says this guy! And, “ask for what you want.” I’ve been asking for a) teeth b) ice cube in mouth. Why not? The restaurant has a lot of things on the menue.
But, how about friendly blowjobs as quickies? I’d love it if my lady dropped to her knees going out to work saying “I’ve not time at the moment to do this right but I’d like to give you a down payment.” And then sucked me hard on a tease and got up, promising more at the 5 O’ Clock happy hour. I think it is a mistake for the women to think the guy has to always come during oral or Right Now. Oral is such good foreplay for intercourse, says this man.

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RawLion 2014-04-17 19:34:18

I’ll just lay back and smile……………………………..

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youknowme 2014-08-26 19:30:03

I enjoy placing my guys on the side of the bed or edge of a chair for a few reasons . . . one, my neck isn’t at an angle that will wear on me if it lasts a while, he gets a great view of my boobs and can easily grasp my hair out of the way so he can watch, I love being submissive and kneeling in service to my men, and finally, there’s something about that pleading upward gaze while he’s face fucking me that gets both of us extra hot!

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Gothic Harlequin 2014-08-27 03:08:09

I do agree with your comment “Like it Love it”. Speaking from both sides of the fence it is the thing that matters most . technique how, n hard or soft all pales compared to the desire that one puts into the job( no pun intended)

If look at it in reciprocated way , how would you feel with one between your thighs just going through the motions for you. It feels rather empty when it is a task, and guys do notice . And if you not sure talk about it , talk n practice , if your cheeky talk about it at your favorite coffee house and watch him order a second coffee cause he can’t stand up yet lol.

This our mind that is our biggest sexual organ , and the one that devetves the best treatment. And I admit that there is nothing better than your boy blowing his load on your lips, very satisfying, not mention is more time for for play till the next rising.

For those that thetrre men don’t make noise , well lot of them don’t , and take a bit opdf communication to let them feel less self conscious about their own moans n groans . Many men’s sexuual education comes from porn, sad but true, where that misguided ideal is their goal, and think they have get through a very good head job and fuck for half hour before they can come rather than come a few times in a session. If he quiet he maybe trying hold of his orgasm so he can fuck and please you becdore he cums. I should wrote an article on that lol.

Have fun and enjoy the cock, and don’t forget about a 69 either

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Harry 2014-09-05 19:07:02

Very interesting article. As a male I can agree to everything you wrote as well as say the writing actually turned me on. I too have a “blow job” blog that is very tasteful and offers tips and tricks to all of the ladies out there looking for assistance. If you get a chance, please take a look. I’m fairly new to the blogging space and would love to possibly guest blog for you or have you guest blog for me. My blog is about the perfect blow job

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hotmama 2014-09-10 13:48:27

I love sucking husbands cock and his sperm yummy

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Lamont Mcinnis 2014-09-11 19:35:41

My wife says it takes me to long to nut and I told her that no woman has ever made me cum so wat is the problem with me

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