Update on Upscale Swinger Parties in St. Louis

By Kendra Holliday | October 26, 2013 at 7:33 am

UPDATE! Oct 26, 2013 -I sent out an announcement regarding TBK Parties and received an OVERWHELMING response! It took me two weeks to wade through them all! SO much good feedback, great suggestions, great people, I’m so excited! I replied to every person who responded to my announcement, and will send out an update soon!

August 22, 2013 – Lately, I’ve had SOO many couples approach me asking about good swinger parties in St. Louis. I helped organize a venue last year and the parties were AWESOME, attracting couples from all over the area, and even other cities. Unfortunately this option was short lived, lasting about six months. The group and vibe was great, not to mention the swanky venue, but they are no longer hosting parties. So we need to find another option.

You’ll be glad to know I’ve been working on a business plan for an upscale swinger club in St. Louis and have a meeting scheduled with some key people next month. The right ambiance is SO important for feeling sexy and comfortable. Seedy hotels, sketch adult movie theaters, and VFW halls don’t cut it for me.

So! As I flesh out the details, I’d like your input. What’s on your sex club wishlist? Where would you like it located? What sort of things would you like to see there? What kind of people? What rules and guidelines should be in place? What themes would be sexy and fun?

We want spacious and classy!

Do you know of any great sex clubs that would be helpful to refer to for inspiration? I’ve been to the Oasis Aqua Lounge in Toronto – that place is great! There’s Club Joi in Los Angeles.

It would be nice if the space could also be used for other things as well, such as clothing optional parties, educational demos, discussions… I have so many ideas!

We just need to find the space and funding and make sure it’s done right. Thanks for your input, and stay tuned! (Leave a comment if you’d like to be kept in the loop on this project!)

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Buddha 2012-10-04 00:28:05

Looks damn nice. I agree… if I were to visit a swinger’s event, it would have be some Eyes Wide shut shit (say that three times). Anyway… upscale, definitely. Sex aside, I’d hang out here. Can I go?

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    Kendra Holliday 2012-10-04 06:28:28

    You’re always looking for a good excuse to come visit, aren’t you? Well bring one of your fun-loving vixens and join us!

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      jonnybravo 2013-10-04 12:23:27

      i would like to join please let me know you nexf party

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        Kendra Holliday 2013-10-04 12:41:48

        Hello, my plan is slowly coming together, making progress. Added you to the email list, will send an update out soon!

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Trevor 2012-10-05 13:46:10

Thank you so much for this heads up. We’re visiting form out of town the week of this event and would likely have not found this event without this post.

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CrazyCockAcres 2013-01-14 11:55:35

Thank you very much for writing about this past event. If we didn’t read this article after learning about these parties we would not be entertaining the idea to going to future events.

My wife and I have visited other cities that have lifestyle events that are first class and upscale, for years we have wished something like this would be would available in St. Louis. Stripe clubs and sex shops just are not our scene, but a place that is private and classy would be. Thanks again for you work and maybe we’ll see you at an event soon!

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    Kendra Holliday 2013-01-14 12:02:15

    Glad you saw it! They have a Mardi Gras themed party coming up on Sat but I won’t be able to attend this time. I hope I can make the next one – they usually happen every 6-8 weeks.

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      CrazyCockAcres 2013-01-18 20:02:30

      We are planning on attending this upcoming party, hopefully they’ll invite us to their next party and we can say hello in person.

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Phil 2013-06-20 20:21:52

We’ve been looking for something classy for ages… Looks like just what the doctor ordered. But where do we sign up?

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stlouiswildside 2013-06-25 15:59:53

hey we wanted to attend one of those parties, but the dates never worked. when we checked again the site was down. just out of curiosity, what happened? it looked awesome enough.

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    Kendra Holliday 2013-06-26 05:03:52

    The handful of parties they hosted were outstanding, like being in a movie, but they decided to stop hosting for personal reasons. I hope we can find a new venue for classy, sexy events here in St Louis. I’ll post any updates!

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      spfuntimes 2013-12-15 20:10:29

      Ive recently become single and have the desire to check out this lifestyle. I do have a male friend that would like to join me and swing with other couples, however have no idea where to go in STL. Any ideas how to get involved? He is 50 (very hot) and Im 46, would like to find other people our age.

      Thanks

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stlouiswildside 2013-06-28 15:43:03

kendra, if a venue were found, would you be remotely interested in running the guest list or the event itself?

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    Kendra Holliday 2013-06-29 06:16:10

    YES. I helped get these parties started and have the email list and believe in screening. I want it done right. I just haven’t had the time to network and find the right connections/resources.

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stl21017 2013-06-29 01:58:55

we would like to party there, please let us know, how to contact.

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stlouiswildside 2013-07-02 10:43:34

well then a proper venue needs to be found. you would the perfect person to run them. been to most of the stuff out there over the years. the only drawback was the venue and/or the guest list. some could do one or the other, but not both, and the event suffered. anybody with any suggestions?

the hideaway in mitchell used to do a pretty nice event, although there was no screening. they were lifestyle friendly and if i remember right had a local hotel with pool and hottub that was cooperative. we never really felt the vibe though. the place was a little run down. not sure about the hotel, we never stayed there. any suggestions? if there was interest, we could probably front some of the deposits and such just to make it happen if that would help.

it’s really a shame not to make it happen if there was that much interest, and a decent screened list to start with.

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    Kendra Holliday 2013-07-02 10:53:54

    I’ll post an update soon, but I met with a businessman last week to see if we can’t figure out a partnership where he helps set up an exclusive, screened local swingers club and I manage it. I’m doing research now, stay tuned!

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BiCouple4u2Cum 2013-07-06 22:32:36

Great information here, thank you. We’re a clean and classy couple, both bi although we prefer women, but we just can’t find any clean and classy action around here. We just read about a party on/near the Landing that’s running tonight (7/6) and possibly tomorrow night (7/7) and wondered if it was anything you might know about…? Cheers! PS – love Love LOVE your blog! :D

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    Kendra Holliday 2013-07-07 08:49:50

    I don’t know about that party at all – please share more info with us if you have it! thank you!

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st 2013-07-08 18:06:42

kendra, is there a potential venue in the mix already? i was asking around about some potential candidates, but won’t bother if your discussions already have a place in mind………

be nice to have a clothing optional pool and/or hottub. :)

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    Kendra Holliday 2013-07-10 03:26:50

    No, we don’t already have a place in mind, and YES it would be nice if the venue had a pool or hot tub!!! One of the best swinger clubs I’ve been to was Oasis aqua lounge in Toronto.

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absolute fallacy 2013-07-23 14:38:28

I would like to participate in one of these events. Please let me know how to contact

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    Kendra Holliday 2013-07-23 15:21:16

    I’m working on it! Will add you to my list…

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Ericnamy 2013-07-29 14:37:17

Recently moved to STL from LA and are interested in anything you are able to set up. Thx in advance.

Ena

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bmh423 2013-08-21 22:03:41

Hi! Please email me when you get the party info. Thx!!

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    Kendra Holliday 2013-08-22 03:17:17

    Working on it! Gathering research and notes for our meeting next month. Stay tuned, and will do!

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bpkp 2013-08-22 09:16:23

Pls add us to interested lists.

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Shawn 2013-08-22 09:52:45

I think the most important thing you’d want is a super cool DJ playing mellow and sexy tunes. ;)

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    Kendra Holliday 2013-08-22 11:05:37

    No lie, here’s an excerpt from my biz plan notes:
    Wishlist for space: hot tub, privacy fence backyard, somewhat secluded, swanky, space for 50 people, massage room, NURU capability, firepit or fireplace, additional space for other types of meetings like discussion groups, a dungeon? theme rooms like a religious space? Shawn can DJ parties. Make it available for fetish nights and educational demos, movie nights

    I hear you’re DJ’ing the upcoming clothing optional wine and cheese party? Nice!

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      Shawn 2013-08-22 11:11:25

      Awesome.

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      Peonie 2013-08-23 11:46:24

      Ohhhh, NURU…. Yes, please!! Look forward to future updates, and I really like the idea of discussion groups in kink/educational areas. Fabulous idea.

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The Barbarian 2013-08-22 14:19:18

This makes us beyond excited to know you’re still working on this! I’ll email you with some thoughts when we get a chance to talk about what we really like in a space.

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himself 2013-08-22 16:33:09

For inspiration, consider Club Princeton in Columbus, Ohio.

http://www.clubprinceton.com

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    Kendra Holliday 2013-08-22 19:05:41

    Excellent, thank you! Saw some great themes listed – Ohio, who knew?!

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      Sara 2013-08-23 20:36:37

      Oh- Ohio is full of “alternative” folks ;)

      I like that Club Princeton has renting the space as an option, it allows for more particular groups (bbw, lgbt, etc) to create a safe and sexy atmosphere to meet and have fun.

      I have enjoyed several parties at alternative clubs that were based out of rehabilited athletic clubs. There’s usually plenty of open spaces, locker room/restroom spaces, private rooms, and pool fun ….

      Best of luck to you in your adventures on finding a place!

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kat&mark 2013-08-23 16:29:50

Hi Kendra,
Delighted to hear you are still championing this cause. We live out of town, but would certainly visit if invited!
We’ve been to the Princeton club in Columbus – very nice; also very BIG – lots of space to spread out. The nicest place we ever visited was called Club Colete on the grounds of Caliente Carib resort in the Dominican Republic (there are other Club Coletes, can’t vouch for them). Hands down the most fun we’ve ever had (and still have) is at Seamountain Inn in Desert Hot Springs. The key ingredients there are warm weather, nude pool, relaxed atmosphere, and no unaccompanied men (sorry guys). I’m not sure that can be duplicated in STL, but you asked for examples…
Our wish list is simple: 1) a place to escape the music so conversation/seduction can occur, and 2) start EARLY. “Lingerie or less” by 10PM is a good guideline. Oh, ample bathroom facilities are good too.
Good luck! Hope you will add us to the “interested parties” list.

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Jade 2013-08-25 15:37:49

I’ll put my vote in here for an invite list that *includes* some single men (vetted and selected by the hosts, of course) especially if single women are allowed. The “bi babes are hot” but “2 guys (or more) and one girl is not” hypocrisy has always rankled me in the swinger scene. There are a *lot* of women that would enjoy more than one male, given an environment that made them feel safe while doing so (thus why vetting them and allowing only a controlled number of single men is so important.)

I have been to two swinger clubs and have been on two swinger takeover cruises. One club is Collete’s in New Orleans. I loved the way they had great music to dance to and a hopping bar atmosphere on the lower level, then mellow, sexy music, mood lighting and a kind of warren of rooms in the upstairs, where you could wander about and find the kind of scene that turned you on (or leave an area that wasn’t your thing.)

The other was in Providence, RI and they had two hot tubs, various rooms with couches and sheer or not-so-sheer curtains around the perimeter, “theme” rooms (kinky, voyuer/exhibitionists, orgy room, gangbang room, a dark room, a bi-male room, etc.) and a kinky play area and dance floor in the middle.

The key to both places was a luxurious, sensuous environment that also allowed for people to express their sexuality in whatever way turned them on. If others didn’t like what was going on in one space, they could move on to other spaces in the club and find something they *did* like.

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    Kendra Holliday 2013-08-26 07:49:22

    Your vote is sound and taken to heart. The events will be screened and it goes without saying that people you vouch for are welcome. Poly people are welcome. Bi men are welcome. Interracial is A-OK. We will strive to honor diversity and operate on mutual respect.

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stlouiswildside 2013-09-03 18:10:34

no updates? any potential venues? inquiring minds want to know. :)

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    Kendra Holliday 2013-09-04 10:38:16

    I have a biz planning meeting with key people next week! Been compiling a ton of notes to go over with them. First and foremost, we have to figure out funding, then venue, then structure, etc.

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ahabia 2013-09-16 20:39:25

So….as a single, where can I hook up w/ bi-friendly UPSCALE men??

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    Kendra Holliday 2013-09-17 00:54:16

    Craigslist. Backpage. Cactus Canyon. Gay bars. Hotel bars. Boxers n Briefs. Club St Louis.

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Tina M. 2013-09-18 18:39:49

My husband an I would love to be invited to a swinger party. We don’t know anything about the lifestyle, but we would love to meet some people who might want to give us a little more information. We are very open to trying new things and meeting new people. As for ideas, I guess some nice light and music will set the mood:) I also live here in St. louis:)

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    Kendra Holliday 2013-09-18 19:03:52

    You’ve come to the right place! I’ve added you to my list, thank you :)

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      Ray 2013-10-08 16:03:34

      Sorry missplling .I was in Amstrdam couple of times .Fully familer with life style .I am single and like to participate in this club.

      THX

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        Kendra Holliday 2013-10-09 18:18:09

        Added you to the email list, will send out more info soon!

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    KELLIE 2014-05-19 18:21:45

    WE WERE RESEARCHING THE INTERNET AND CAME ACROSS YOUR POST FROM LAST SEPTEMBER. WE NOTICED THAT YOU WERE NEW TO THIS AND WE ARE IN THE SAME POSITION, WONDERING IF YOU COULD HELP US OUT.,…WHERE DO WE GO IN THE ST LOUIS AREA TO EXPLORE OUR CURIOSITY. WE ARE A HETEROSEXUAL COUPLE. ANY INFORMATION YOU COULD PROVIDE WOULD BE APPRECIATED!

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Tina M. 2013-09-18 19:36:02

Yay:) Thank you

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terri 2013-09-19 15:30:03

I’m a single woman that’s looking for a place to go that’s for swingers.thanks

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    Kendra Holliday 2013-09-19 17:52:50

    Added you to the list! thank you

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stlouiswildside 2013-09-23 17:29:48

ugh….. went to a party the other night that had some promise, and it was a complete dud. kendra, somebody needs to do this right. don’t the beat me in st. louis people have a hotel that is lifestyle friendly with a pool and hot tub? it could be so much fun with the right crowd……

and better yet, i think it could be profitable. supply and demand. there is plenty of demand and no supply. do the math.

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    Kendra Holliday 2013-09-24 06:28:01

    I HEAR YOU! Working on it! Had a productive meeting, now need to take action on the items. I’ve been to Beat Me, don’t really care to go back.

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      stlouiswildside 2013-09-30 23:09:24

      Yeah I wasn’t really talking about beat me or spanksgiving, but i think they had a venue that was pretty nice. maybe it could be used…………

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memph10 2013-09-30 20:13:39

Would like to know where me and my wife can go to get a third party female in STL?

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MJ 2013-10-09 18:05:37

I am a single woman that have been to swinger clubs and have did the orgy scene once. I think I would like the fantasy scene better. Some kind of party that will put you in a good vibe. Can you add me or point me in the right direction from STL too. Thanks

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    Kendra Holliday 2013-10-09 18:17:45

    Yes! Added you to the email list. Will send out more info soon…

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Malcolm Little 2013-10-15 09:33:28

Awesome post. Can you add me to the email list?

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nick 2013-10-17 18:09:09

U seem to b the only hope for me and my wives. Please add to email list

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dan 2013-10-21 20:55:33

We would love to be added to your list. Thanks

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Sandy Rodriguez 2013-10-24 20:41:49

I have been to mostly private swingers parties with what I call “Neos” They had no clue seriously. I would love to be added to a real local club. Keep me posted. Thanks Bunches….

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sexygeek26 2013-10-26 21:08:11

Hi Kendra,

I believe that you will succeed in your endeavours and do great justice to the swinger club. One way to approach the whole concept is to treat the establishment as a Disneyland or playground for mature adults.

Having lived in The Netherlands before, I have experienced the Dutch openness to sexuality. A good example of that would be the swnger club Fun4Two (www.fun4two.nl). I am in no way trying to promote them, but across the Atlantic in The Netherlands, Germany and France you will come across some very good examples of what a swinger club should be.

Wishing you lots of luck and kisses
sexygeek

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Daytona 2013-10-27 04:14:52

I love and admire your plans for st. Louis. I’d also liked to be added to the email list. I’m a graphic designer and would love to contribute anyway I can. I can’t wait.

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Michael & Marilyn 2013-10-29 15:09:31

We have enjoyed many of your stories and post. We are looking forward to any upscale venue addition to the LS scene in St.Louis. Something like Menages in Nashville or Trapeze in Fort Lauderdale would be so much fun. Clubs on the East side are just not that LS friendly or fun.

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    Kendra Holliday 2013-10-29 16:26:27

    Thanks! I just heard about Menages and also an amazing sounding club in Atlanta area?

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      Michael & Marilyn 2013-10-30 17:02:24

      If you would please add use to your email list about any new clubs.

      Thank you
      M&M

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Eric & Lisa 2013-11-01 11:39:59

My wife and I have been interested in getting into the lifestyle for years, could we please be added to any email lists about the upscale club or parties?

E&L

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Jacob 2013-11-09 13:11:52

Wow I love your site! I was wondering if there was anything going on tonight? If so could you email me.
thanks,
Jacob

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    Kendra Holliday 2013-11-09 13:17:13

    Check http://www.sexstl.com/calendar for events… fb and RFT have events posted all the time. As for fun adult events, well, I’m working on that! thanks!

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Intoit4fun 2013-11-18 05:47:26

We would love a true swingers club in STL. Been to several around the country, including clubs in and around Indy, Chicago, KC and in Florida. The one things the better clubs had in common were roomy playrooms, hot tubs/pools, changing areas, dance areas, a relaxing “meeting” area, plenty of space – and if course all were clean and well-kept.
Please keep us up to date on your plans – we would love to help any way we can!
- L & S

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    Kendra Holliday 2013-11-18 07:42:23

    Thanks! Do you live in St Louis? Are you on my list to receive updates? I posted an intro page about it: http://thebeautifulkind.com/party/
    and just sent out an email yesterday with more details about the Dec 11 mixer.

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Charlie 2013-11-19 01:15:08

Please add me to your list for updates. Also if u need help on business formation, confidentiality, and other legalities, I’m glad to join the group and help.

Hope it’s moving forward!!!

Charlie

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SAAPHIR 2014-01-25 10:55:48

i’D LOVE TO BE ADDED TO THE MAILING LIST AS WELL.

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Ashley B 2014-01-25 18:55:20

Hello Kendra!

I would love to keep updated on your progress too! I know I am late to this form just new to St. Louis and my boyfriend and I are checking out the scene. Please add me to your mail list too if you can! Thank you!
Hope you have made significant progress!!

Ashley B

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Brian 2014-02-27 11:21:30

Hi there Kendra,

My gf and I would be interested in whatever updates you can supply.

Thank you in advance.

B and A

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Glenn 2014-05-14 23:06:12

Is there any updates? We would Love to know about it!

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    Kendra Holliday 2014-05-15 08:25:15

    Taking a breather before scheduling the next one – stay tuned!

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