By Kendra Holliday | October 9, 2013 at 10:05 pm
The theme was Women and Power, and it was indeed powerful! It was really cool sitting in a great hall with 500 other women (wowow!), listening to inspirational speakers such as Brene Brown, Zen priests and other do-gooders.
The place was idyllic. I felt like I was wandering around a Pinterest board, what with all the beautiful women floating by wearing flowing silk scarves, the bucolic, rolling meadows bathed in mellow sunlight, shabby chic gardens dripping with melons and gourds, supple yoga poses and frog-happy, burbling meditation ponds.
It was unnervingly peaceful there. Seriously, I was out of my element. I kind of felt like an imposter, like I didn’t belong.
I felt quiet, solitary, and loved – and by that I mean SELF-love. I was proud I gave myself this gift. It cost a lot of money, but it was worth it.
I wish I could do stuff like this more often! Sigh, priorities. Budget. Life.
Ready for some brain dumping?
Here is the Vision of the retreat:
We envision women’s leadership advancing a future where:
Women and girls are valued for their full human potential, live in safety, equality and freedom, and can express themselves and contribute meaningfully in all spheres of life
Men and boys are free to express the full range of human qualities and share equitably with women and girls in life’s responsibilities and joys
Our global society fosters nurturing and mutual relationships, healthy families and communities, and a peaceful, just, and sustainable world—for everybody.
Sounds pretty awesome, right? All mature and equal. I can dig it.
Do you think the word “power” has negative connotations, or positive? They defined power as “the ability to change something you want changed.” YES.
It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.
See, he said that WAY before trolls were leaving asshat comments on youtube!
In other words, don’t let the cowards get you down. Operate on mutual respect. If someone disrespects you, their vote is canceled out. YOU are in charge. YOU are the brave one. You can choose courage, or comfort. Unless you are also standing in the arena getting your ass kicked, your comments and criticism don’t hold water.
Courage is doing the right thing, even though it scares you.
What is a leader?
A leader holds herself accountable for the potential in people and processes.
A leader goes where she wants others to follow.
As a parent, it is important to teach your children strength and grit. Lead by example.
“The way parents influence their children most deeply is by example. Children instinctively observe the choices their parents make, the freedoms and pleasures they allow themselves, the talents they develop, the abilities they ignore, and the rules they follow.” -Harville Hendrix, Getting the Love You Want
Building strong relationships with loved ones is SO important. One woman at the conference stood up and declared, “When I go back home, I want to go through a locked door and into a room I’ve never been in before – with my husband.”
I wonder if she did.